Basically he cheated on me but I cant seem to leave him!
2007-02-09 01:50:17 · 32 answers · asked by zara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they say out of sight out of mind
2007-02-09 01:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years is a long time to be with someone - DO YOU think and feel that in time you can learn to trust again. Cheating is an awful thing to be on the receiving end of...do you know why he cheated. There is a chance it could happen again if there are still outstanding issues in your relationship -
how about having some time living apart - but continue to see eachother - that way you kind of start dating eachother again and it stops you both being stale - become a new you - get your hair cut have a personal revamp and get yourself noticed, a simple wolf whistle can perk your confidence in your self up when walking down the street!! also by having this time out from living with eachother, as much as it may hurt, you can also evaluate how you REALLY feel about him and the situation.
good luck Hunny i hope you find whats BEST for you ......: )
2007-02-09 01:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you wasted 6 years of your life.
He is a cheater. I doubt this was the first time and it won't be the last. Some people are just that way. He will do it to the next girl he meets too.
So, you need to decide what you want for yourself.
Do you want a life where you wonder who he is doing every time he leaves the house alone? A cheater is also a liar. Is it worth the stress?
Or, would you rather get out now and find someone who is going to be good to you and wants a great relationship.
If nothing else, don't you worry about him bring a sexual desease home to you? Herpes or someting like that?
2007-02-09 02:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he cheat?
Was it a one-off mistake or was there a deeper problem in the relationship that was making him unhappy and made him stray?
Has the relationship broken down completely or is there a good relationship in there that can be salvaged?
If you still love each other and he is very sorry then maybe you shouldn't leave him. If he is willing he can help rebuild your trust and repair the relationship.
If none of that applies, and you can't leave him cos you've got used to being with him then you need to just leave and work on your self esteem.
2007-02-09 02:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me 2 years ago. Than we were again together and now is happening again.
You definitely have to let him go and start a new life, don't worry about those 6 years. You will never have the same relationship with him because you will not trust him anymore .This already happened to me and it was too difficult to trust after a cheating.
I ' m sure you 'll find the person you deserve
2007-02-09 02:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by gloria b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you must still have feelings for him!
Can you learn to trust him again - probably not!
Then only you can make the decision to call it a day and walk away! Relationships canbe like a drug - you can become used to each other and the thought of going without makes you wary!
You will survive and will move on to another relationship with someone else!
2007-02-09 01:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by jamand 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to leave him once a cheater always a cheater at the end of the day you will never have trust with again because you are always going to be wondering where he is and what he is doing.You need to tell him straight up i can't believe you took him back in the first place...
2007-02-09 02:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be open and honest.. Just don't run away, Tell him how you feel.. A relationship that lasted as long as this one.. You both well need closure.. It can be scary, very scary.. You feel that the relationship is over, it's over.. The longer you wait the more damage to the both of you will accrue.. Do it face to face, explain your feelings.. Let him have a chance to explain his.. There is no easy cope out.. I'm sorry that's all I can say..
2007-02-09 07:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by psycho247_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you, he has probably done it before and he is probably going to do it again. If you wait long enough he will probably leave you anyway so you might as well do it first and at least have some pride in tact. Take a big deep breath and ditch him.
2007-02-09 02:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by LillyB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you don't want to end it. So you cant trust her anymore huh well maybe you should sit down and talk to her and find out whats going on if she really and truthfully loves you then shell tell you and if she tells you something and you don't believe her then have someone spy on her and find out whats going on then you can dump her when you find out the truth is something bad because it not easy breaking up with someone that you loved because i dated a guy for 5 years and he went and cheated on me and i had to find out the hard way of him because i just followed him one day and seen him kissing up on another girl and he was really sorry for it and i wouldn't take him back so the next week he killed himself so ya talk to her and find out what is really going on.
2007-02-09 01:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by Amber N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love him? did he cheated you one time or more? did he accepted his mistake?can you trust him again?
6 yrs in a relationship is impressive...but if you feel that you have given everything to him and still nothing worked out, you need to tell him how you feel and that probably the best thing for both of you is to go separate ways.
2007-02-09 01:56:41 · answer #11 · answered by Samantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋