ok ,,, my mom passed away after a long battle for the last 3 month..she died january 30th... i got paid for 1 week off my work place said i could take 2 more weeks if i neede it i took 1 more week i am using some vacation and some days with out pay. i lost my dad 4 years a go also then my uncil died the day of my moms funeral which was last saturday. i also have been sick during this time off, so i think i will use 3 days sick pay for this week. i got some medicine from the doctor but htey are booked up so i cant even get in... i go back to work on monday..please note that my mom was just burried last saturday and my uncil this saturday.
2007-02-09 01:47:17 · 24 answers · asked by mary c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Feel guilty for what? You had no control over your mother passing away and getting sick. Your job gives you the benefit of earning and cashing in on sick hours. Use it. That's what it's there for.
2007-02-09 01:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your losses so close together. This is a grieving time for you. No-one can tell you how to handle that , it's personal growth you are going thru . You will grow once you you get thru this and yes it will pass the pain not the memories of your love ones. Your family is in a better place of enjoyment now. I am sure your mom would like for you to continue in life and enjoy it. You can always take personal time off if you need from your job while you are going thru. You would have to contact your Human Resource department to find out what action you need take. Good Luck, GOD IS WITH YOU ALL THE TIME EVERYWHERE YOU GO...
Always remember that GOD doesn't make mistakes. Every thing happens for a reason.
2007-02-09 09:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by Chocolate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to take some time to yourself to get through this. I realize that the death of a parent is not something you ever really get over, but at least to get your emotions under control. Take the time you need. There is the FMLA law which states that you can take up to 12 weeks without pay for family leave. Maybe you should look into it. I am sorry for your loss. Take care.
2007-02-09 09:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im am so sorry that your mother passed away and i dont think you should feel guilty at all you still have to work and you can still morn your father mother and uncle but you can still go to work i mean you have taken days without pay you have been sick and the doctors office was booked there is nothing to feel guilty about you have had it rough and you need something to do to get your mind off the deaths of your uncle and mother.
2007-02-09 09:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by brittany s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, I am so very sorry for all your loss. It is very understandable that you need time off. Most employers are very understanding and even some actually let you take bereavement time off that is paid. Please don't feel guilty about work, you already have so much on your plate. Just sit and home and rest. Take care of yourself and let yourself mourn your loss. If you are still feeling guilty, call your human resources and speak with them. They can give you an honest and direct answer to how much time you can take off.
Take care, your in my prayers.
2007-02-09 10:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if youre asking should you feel guilty about taking time off work then hell no!!!! i just lost my grandmother on the 15th of january and i took a week off. and even with that im still having a hard time. take all the time you want and if the company you work for wont except it find a better place to work.
2007-02-09 09:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by feelinurpain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have family medical leave of absent? If so I believe it will allow you more time. Call your benefits person and see. as far as guilt , You are the only person who knows when you are ready to face your daily routine again. We all are different in the time we take to grieve and you have been through some big losses. I'm sorry to hear about your father,mother and uncle . It must be hard to be with out them , I hope time will give you the peace you need. I will be thinking of you . good luck
2007-02-09 09:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by onehotgeorge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD, are you serious? You have absolutley no reason to feel guilty. This must be a really tough time for you. Take all the time you need, and stop thinking like that, you're only human! Take care of yourself and stop worrying about everyone else.
2007-02-09 09:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, There is no way you could have known that these things were going to happen the way that they did. Take the time and get to feeling better. You surely don't want to get anyone that you work with sick.
2007-02-09 10:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by Sexie Gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please take time out to take care of yourself, to grief.
You need this time. Don't rush back to work. Even if you can go back to work to be around other people, may sure that you listen to your body. If your body is telling you that you need to rest, listen to it.
The only benefit I can see of rushing back to work is to be around other people so that your mind is not on all the sad things that you have went through, but it will catch up with you later if you don't take time out right now to grief.
Been there!
My deepest sympathy to you.
God Bless.
2007-02-09 09:53:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lana817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋