Me and my boyfriend have been together over 3 years and i love him dearly. on a saturday he was telling me he loved me and wanted to marry me but then on tue 3 days later he said he wanted space to see if he wants to be with me or if our relationship has just become a habit. im giving him space and havent heard from him in a few days will he dump me?
2007-02-09 01:30:30 · 19 answers · asked by katie353ire 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him first, beat him to the punch.
2007-02-09 01:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your boyfriend got nervous about making the statement about getting married. For some men, getting married is a scary thought - maybe he just needs a few days to process such a big step. Everyone moves at a different pace when it comes to marriage - and maybe for him these few days will help solidify the idea of marriage. If you haven't heard from him in a week maybe you should call him just to tell him you love him and you are there for him. Give him a little space, and if he is your one true love - he will be back and his respect and love for your will be even stronger because you respected his need for space. Good luck.
2007-02-09 01:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you need to learn the cold hard truth about relationships right now, before you do anything else. If a guy says anything along the line of "im not sure if I want a realtionship right now" or " I need space" or even " I want to be with you, just not right now" this always 100% of the time means " I really, truly, DO NOT want to be with you, not now, not ever." Im sorry but its true. If you understand this now it will save you years of sitting around guessing what he means. Be a strong woman, dump his ***, and I guarantee when you do he will come running back, but if you take him back he will do it all over again. Find someone that knows what he wants and doesnt play games with your head.
2007-02-09 01:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by robsgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a question of whether or not he wants to be with you, then u should begin to wonder about the relationship. If he wants space give him all the space he needs. But let him know that you may not be there when he wants to come back. Show him that you can be without him too, and take this opportunity to search yourself and find out if this is the person you really want to be with. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-02-09 01:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by Oh So Lovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say, but it doesnt look to good for you right now. But instead of sitting around waiting for him to make the decision, maybe you should take this time to do what he is doing - evaluate the relationship from your perspective, do you REALLY want to be with a guy thats not 100% sure about you?
I hope whatever the out come you are able to deal with it and be happy in the long run.
2007-02-09 01:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by Pippa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might dump you but acting needy will definetly make him want to leave you, you need to just act as if you are not bothered about what he is doing etc. evn though you are and if he does decide the relationship is over then all you can do is move on you can't hold on too someone who doesn't love you
2007-02-09 02:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always thought that the path to th ealtar should be very clear cut and easy. Boy likes girl, girl likes boy, boy asks girl out, girl says yes, they check each other out for a while not too long 12 months max, if their are no major showstoppers boy asks father for girls hand in marriage, boy proposes marriage. End of. Call me old fashioned but time will tell in the meantime get off out and flirt a little! Maybe there's a better one out there!
2007-02-09 01:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by MI5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is go out. if he doesnt contact you give him a week then just ring him up and ask to meet.
Let him see that you have coped fine without him and that you just want to know what the hell is going on.
Chances are someone else has come into the picture. Im no def saying that but its just wierd how one day things are fine and then there not.
I was in your shoes once- it messed me up because I didnt know whether I was coming or going. and I thought it was rong for them to do it.
All I done was told her a loved her and missed her alot, though I wasnt willing to be strung along while she went out and was having fun without me.
try keep busy and just go out with your girl mates to take your mind of him.
wish you all the best
2007-02-09 01:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all very well by giving him some space but this is obviously a bolt out of the blue for you and he is blowing hot and cold all of a sudden, you must be going out of your mind waiting on him to get in touch which I think is very unfair of him.
Not sure if he is going to finish with you but in the meantime why not get involved in anything and everything to take your mind off the situation. Go out tonight with one of your friends or colleagues from work and let your hair down.
hope it works out for you petal.
good luck
2007-02-09 01:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. He's pretty selfish to play with your emotions like that. While he's out getting his "space," don't sit around moping. Go out with your girlfriends and flirt your little heart away. It'll take your mind off things and if you don't work through it, your maneater skills will be refreshed and you can start anew.
2007-02-09 01:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry if I sound harsh but it seems like my man has found himself someone else to play mind games with, he is probably testing the water with the new one while he has you on hold waiting in case she don't match up to what he wants sorry girl you gotta dump him cause he is playing you
2007-02-09 01:37:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋