Do girls give a cr@p about guys after they split up with them?

Question

Just wondering. Guys seem to care for a girl AFTER they split up, and still feel jealousy when they know the girl is with another man. Girls may do too, but once they get a new man, it's like the old one never existed, am I wrong? In that way they're like cats, shimmy up to the leg of whoever's currently feeding them, no loyalty.... I think guys, like dogs, have a lot of love for everyone, and find it hard to accept. Comments?

Answer 1

That's what women tend to think about men! It depends more on the person-and the circumstances of the break up I guess. I'm going through something with my longterm boyfriend now that,hopefully,with a lot of love,patience and honesty we can get through-but I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that if I lose him I won't want to date again-I'll just compare them to him and they'll all fall short.

Answer 2

And it can also be said that men are like dogs in that they will hump any willing female they are so willing to "share the love". Offering no REAL loyalty to any one woman.

I think women are often (not always - but generally) more monogamous than men. So while they may have had feelings for you and still care about you to some degree, when things are OVER and they have a new boyfriend, they are then loyal to their current boyfriend, as they should be if there are any hopes of the new relationship lasting longer than the previous one.

Women are notoriously jealous creatures - so I think the jealousy factor applies to both sexes and varies in degree per individuals. Some people are really super jealous folks, some are much less so - that varies from person to person.

Answer 3

I would never agree to splitting the bill if I ask someone out on a date. Maybe I'm old school but that's how me and my siblings were raised. BUT- I can see how he might not know that it hurt your feelings. (Urg this is going to sound so misogynist, I apologize) These days woman are extremely independent. Guys get chided all of the time for assuming a woman cannot take care of herself, which we all know women are equal. So he's probably has past experiences in which he's been made to believe that he shouldn't 'overstep' his duties as a man like they used to teach back in the day. So either way, he's taking a 50/50 chance at offending the women he dates and it seems to me that it just so happened that he was trying to be progressive and go dutch and that was the wrong choice. It's blind chance these days. Perhaps bringing up how you'd like to be treated. Guys don't beat around the bush, either. So just say next time "If we are going on a date, I can't afford to pay. If you can't pay either, let's do something en-expensive". It sucks that he hurt your feelings. But I'm a guy and I've seen this happen before and I couldn't let that -possible- explanation go by unattended.

Answer 4

I think it depends on the two people and how the relationship ended.

For me, when a relationship is over - it's over. It never mattered if I broke it off or he did. Done is done.

As for loyalty, I don't think a guy is any more loyal than a girl. There are both guys and girls who harbor unhealthy obsessions and refuse to let go. That is not loyalty - it is obsession.

Life is an adventure. One relationship don't work it's ok. You just jump back in and see what life hands you next.

Running around hurting and feeling sorry for yourself is a waste of time. It won't change anything. It sure don't encourage other people to want a relationship with you either. Too much baggage.

Answer 5

Yes!!! It's a form of letting go.. No they are not Just DOGs. They speak another language. Women are always looking for the perfect guy and longevity. Men are just enjoying their youth or single life. Which some women refuse accept. That's why I say friendship is best. If you already friend you tend not try to hurt the other person even if the relationship becomes sexual. Men normally fall in love unexpected. Men just speak a different language. Women normally want attention and when a relationship seems out the window they next person who gives that attention where needed maybe suitable for the next stage of the relationship. I don't condone CHEATING at anyone expense. Stay Positive. Read books on relationships not sex it may help in the future understanding other people decisions.

Answer 6

Listen...If they split up with you, it's not the right match. They cannot ever completely forget you, but there was something wrong or they wouldn't want to ever be without you. Better to have them take off rather than stay with you out of guilt and make your life miserable. I've heard that guys do have a harder time with a split-up, but life does go on and there are many wonderful women in the world. The right one won't walk out. Feeling jealousy isn't necessarily a sign of a healthy relationship, so just because a woman doesn't appear jealous, doesn't mean that she doesn't care for you. And remember, cats can be faithful too!

Answer 7

Well I'm a woman and I still care for people I used to love. Jealous feelings don't mean caring they can just represent loss of what you once had. I'm not sure what you mean by loyalty- if you're with someone else its disrespectful to be involved with anyone else. And everything you asked depends on the nature of the break-up. Also many people not just women need to distance themselves from their ex because of their feelings not lack of them. When you break up things will always be different-but it doesn't mean that the person no longer cares for you, just not in the same way. In the future though remember not all women are the same and visa versa. I know plenty of men who have treated women horribly after a break-up and do not appreciate you're crude analogy of cats and dogs.

Answer 8

Oh boy - I'm laughing out loud at this one. I think you're just trying to stir the pot myself, but okay. We'll play along.

Girls and guys feel pretty much the same, with the same capacity to feel rejected, jilted, jealous, sad, and hurt. Even is someone else comes along in the meantime.

If the girl cared for the boy while they were still together, then chances are she still cares after they've broken up. But remember it takes two to make the break....so for whatever reason it didn't work out, men shouldn't get pouty when the girl moves on with her life.

And being "like a cat" isn't exclusive to either sex. Either people are loyal friends and lovers, or they're not. And I suspect you know that as well....you're either the one who is pouting, or you're just really bored and trying to stir up some interesting answers on Yahoo.

Good luck to you though -

Answer 9

women probably feel even worse due to them being far more emotional about life. Many men seem to regard women as their possessions and feel that they are less of a man because another now has "their" Woman. Much of the animal kingdom fights over the rights to the female and the losers are seen as less strong. I think that you may be a man (like myself) in touch with your feminine side but you believe most men think like you. They don't. Accept that most men are jealous in a break up because of the supposed "loss of face" and not because they care so much. Do not regard this feminine side as bad, it allows you to be a more complete person and to communicate with the female gender on a better level. I believe a real man should have qualities of emotion because it means he has thought and experienced life to a deeper degree than others. It means that he doesn't just fit the stereo type image but is and can cast aside male impregnated ideas and develop his own life. Learn to move on. The old saying, if you love someone , set them free.

Answer 10

It pretty much depends on how they felt about the guy before the split. If he pretty much intitialted the break-up then chances are she still has some feelings for the man. On the other hand if she breaks up with him, then she may not have any feelings for the guy. This viewpoint can work with both men and for women.

As for for the jeolousy department that is insecurity working its ugly head. I never got why people want to get jeolous and envious because their ex is dating someone new. There are some people men and women alike just can't seem to move on. Instead of worryning about who you used to date, worry about who you are going to date and persue a relationship right now.