My new boyfriend does not want anything in our place that reminds me of another guy. Do you think I should toss all my stuff to make him happy?
2007-02-09 01:17:40 · 13 answers · asked by ChikaSexy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. You don't have to flaunt them, but this is YOUR past and part of who you are today, and he is in the wrong to ask you to throw out memorabilia which means so much to you.
I do see one red flag here....if he's that insistent that you part with all reminders of past relationships, that usually indicates low self-esteem and a lack of trust in others......be careful because that could erupt later with him trying to either manipulate you, or maybe even become jealous and abusive towards you. Been there, done that. The longer the two of you live together, the more such problems will come to light. Now is the time to nip this in the bud. Assure him that he can have complete confidence in your relationship, so you don't need to part with treasures from your past that are important to you. Remind him this past contributed to who you are today.....
Hold your ground and if everything is alright it should die down. Give in now, and you'll only feed the insecurity and control issues this is rooted in.
2007-02-09 01:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pics could be stored somewhere discreet so as not to offend him.The stuffed animals though,I'm assuming you mean toys and not real animals,get rid! You're a grown woman for god's sake.There is nothing more unnerving for a man than an woman with a bed full of teddies and bunnies!
2007-02-09 01:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by New Boots. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think maybe you should put some of the important things in a box to keep if you want to because they are memories of your life. My wife and I both have a picture or 2 of our ex's and my wife has lots of jewelry she has gotten as gifts over the years and it doesn't bother me. I guess the question to ask yourself is, how do you feel about him having those things around from an ex of his? That's how I'd make the decision.
2007-02-09 01:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand his point. Would you want old love notes and pictures of your boyfriends ex's in your home? I would keep the items that had the most meaning and send them to your parents house or give them to a sibling or a close friend to hold on to for you. The stuff that really isn't that important to you I would get rid of.
2007-02-09 01:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but you could toss the stuff to make you happy; out with the old and in with the new!
2007-02-09 01:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i believe you should toss your memeries of your ex-bf and make your current one happy. you have enough of them in your mind. do not let the pics and stuffed animals get in the way of your happiness. let go of them, they are no longer important.
2007-02-09 01:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by mau. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't toss it, i would maybe box it up and take it to your parents, but i don't blame him for wanting another mans stuff out of his house.
2007-02-09 01:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not imagine that you're overreacting in any respect. even as they could not were bodily sound asleep inclusive of her, it sounds like he became attempting to conceal up some type of on-line relationship that they'd had, which isn't ok. i have been there the position my boyfriend has talked to or perhaps lengthy gone out with an ex even as we were hitting a difficult patch, even telling her that issues between us weren't good. it really is obtainable that the images were despatched in basic terms of her personal determination devoid of him having requested for it....yet you should ask your self, may you're making your self that at chance of an ex devoid of any type of encouragement? may you deliver bare images of your self on your ex, in case you 2 did not have something happening? i do not imagine the incident became unprovoked, and that is purely sponsored up by technique of the particular shown actuality that he saved the images for months and not in any respect informed you about the incident. quite...you're thoroughly valid in feeling the way that you're. even if it really is that tense to you, if there is continuously such turmoil like this on your relationship, it should be on your staggering pastime to flow inclusive of your intestine and go away. You reported your self that "i won't be able to be with him after this. it quite is for certain." i trust there are diverse tiers of dishonest. you are able to "type of" cheat and also you'll blatantly cheat. There are all sorts of diverse hues of gray because dishonest has a diverse definition to each and each human being. in case you sense he cheated, in case you sense like you won't be able to trust or be with him after this, then you genuinely are obligated to word of your self and honor those emotions.
2016-11-26 19:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds pretty jealous, u should not be with someone who wants you to get rid of all your memories of past relationships
2007-02-09 01:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by dizzyman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how much you love that new boy,and how do you feel about the old one...
2007-02-09 01:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by painkiller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋