I am having lunch with my friend soon and i care about her alot. She recently lost a pregnancy so I am reluctant to tell her that I just found out im pregnant. I know that she doesn't want kids yet but it still doesn't feel right to me to share this news so soon after what happened to her... I don't know whether to wait a few months more or just spill the beans now during lunch. I am 2 months now and not yet showing although my emotions and food issues do giving it away a bit. Should i tell her now or wait? How should i break it to her?
2007-02-09 01:12:05 · 12 answers · asked by jackie l 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Just tell her, but make sure you are suttle about it. Tell her you'll understand if she gets alittle upset. But if you 2 are really good friends, she will be happy about it and go from there. Good luck.
2007-02-09 01:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing would to be completely honest and upfront about it. The longer you wait the harder it will be and once you do start to show and she see's this she will be even more upset that you didn't tell her sooner since you are close friends. Tell her you have really important news to share with her and it's difficult for you because what she has been through. Let her know in a calm way, not to upset her, let her know that you'll understand any of her emotions right now but you wanted her to know because she means so much to you, you need her support.
Let her know that she means so much to you and her feelings that it's ok to express how she feels. If it were my friend i would be completely sympathetic and understand any emotions she may have but, at the same time i would expect the same kind of support from her as well.
2007-02-09 09:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her before you start showing! I would be hurt if I found out that my good friend was pregnant for 4 or 5 months and I had missed out on the opportunity to be there for her! I had gotten pregnant at the same time as one of my friends, and then I lost the baby. She carried hers to term, but I never felt any malice towards her. I sometimes would look at her pregnant belly and feel a little sad, but I got pregnant again and now have 3 beautiful babies of my own! I think your friend would want to know :) Congratulations!
2007-02-09 09:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by mommyismyname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could wait a little bit longer but you'd only be delaying the inevitable. Tell her but don't make a big deal about it, don't make the whole lunch about it but do get it out of the way and then engineer the conversation so that it moves on to concentrating on her. That should take the heat off the situation and also let her know (without being obvious about it) that you really care about her and how she is doing. Plenty of time thereafter to concentrate on you and the forthcoming baby.
I hope it works out.
2007-02-09 09:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by hevs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been the one the one who lost the baby while friends were getting pregnant left and right. Tell her as soon as possible. She might feel lie you're hiding it from her if you wait too long. She will be happy for you and sad for herself. Let her know you will always be there to support her. I backed off for a couple baby showers. I needed my time to heal and my friends understood that. I did however attend the baby shower of my cousin who shared my due date. That was hard, but I was so happy for her. I wish you tons of happiness!!!
2007-02-09 09:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her. jus be honest and let the truth come out. because if you wait, she'll wonder why you hid it from her, and it'll cause a fight. she'll be hurt that you kept such a huge miracle from her, even if you did it for the right reasons.
hint: when you tell her youre pregnant, DON'T mention her loss. it'll just stir up more pain for her. jus tell her "i got some good news...what are you doing in ,
good luck wit your friend and you child.
2007-02-09 09:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her. You can't hide it for long and she may be upset that you didn't include her in the news when you first knew. I think that she may be alittle taken back because of her lose, but I'm sure that we take a backseat to her happiness for you! If she is your friend, then she loves you and will want to be part of this happy time... it may help her get her mind off her own troubles and give her new hope! Congrats on the baby!
2007-02-09 09:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would wait until you start showing and she notices then tell you her you didn't want to hurt her because you care deeply about her and didn't want to be happy while she is in pain. Time cushions things. Give her a huge hug and go get a tub of ice cream and a good girl movie and sit on the couch together and have a good cry.
2007-02-09 09:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If she's your friend, she'll be happy for you. Just be reserved about it when you tell her so she doesn't feel like you're trying to brag or something.
Besides if you don't tell her now, she may be upset to be the last one to find out.
2007-02-09 09:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by MithrilHawk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your friend best, and you will be in the best position to know when to tell her.
Just because she has gone through this, it doesn't mean that she won't be happy for you :)
Good luck, and congratulations on your pregnancy :)
2007-02-09 10:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋