I am completely in love with someone but we have different opinions on ONE thing. You see, we have been having a long distance relationship for about a year now. I put all my plans on hold for him. But anyway long story short, He wants me to move to be with him. His whole point is He needs someone there with him everyday, not just 3 or 4 times a month. My whole issue is, If he truly loves me he should be willing to wait for me. What am I supposed to do? I truly honestly love him, but he's not willing to wait, and I'm not willing to move.
2007-02-09 01:06:17 · 19 answers · asked by precious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sucks but ...you both have to decide what you value the most...
I tend to agree with you(even though I don't know the details)...Its kinda selfish to threaten leaving the relationship if the girl doesn't come and live with him when she's not ready..
2007-02-09 01:14:48 · answer #1 · answered by roy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already know the answer to your question. You both are obviously making sacrifices on the behalf of your relationship. If he is pressuring you to move to be with him then he isn't being fair. If you do move to him now then you will grow to resent him for forcing you to do something you were not ready to do. But I can see his point in all of this too. As hard as it is you have to make a decision soon. Either set him free to find a full time girlfriend or see if the 2 of you can come together in a way that is fair for both of you. Best of luck.
2007-02-09 09:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a little confused here
if u've put all your plans on hold, then what have you got to do thats stopping u from moving?
i think u should maintain ur ground, if he's still pushing then tell him u need a break to work urself out
btw well done for thinking of what u want for u and not letting your feelings dictate your life choices
im sorry i couldnt be more of a help. good luck!!
2007-02-09 09:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by o o g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never do anything you dont wanna do. you may think i'll do it and just deal with it. but after a while you'll start to resent him for pressuring you into it. and every time yall fight or something goes wrong the first thing youll think is what would be happening if i had stayed where ever when i wanted too. if he loves as much as he puts on hell either be patient or hell make the sacrifice and move!! good luck hun
2007-02-09 09:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by i_like_bears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your at a bit of a stalemate. I can see both sides. LDR's are hard. But true love would be able to wait. I'm in an LDR...I want to be with him so bad but I can't yet. I think you need to maybe find someone else
2007-02-09 09:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by tuxgal3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A year is a long time.He has waited.Why are you unwilling to move if you love him.Dont waste his time.Tell him that you will never move so that he strats looking for another person.By the way what type of commitment has he made for him to say move.Is he marrying you?
2007-02-09 09:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just have to tell him to wait, he cant expect you to drop everything and go to him. why dont he drop everything and move to you? if he's not willing to wait then maybe your better off without cause if you move before you feel ready to, you might end up resenting him because you wasnt ready and you dont want that. tell him you need time but you will eventually or maybe ask him to move to you.good luck
2007-02-09 09:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by vicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then its not going to work, it sounds like he is ready to get serious and maybe you arenot ready, break it off and if it is meant to be than when you are ready it will work out and if you are never ready or its too late when you decide then it wasn't meant to be. Good Luck
2007-02-09 09:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been a year! How long do yo want him to wait.
2007-02-09 09:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by kazz06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's not willing to wait, then tell him it wont work. its ur life, u make ur decisions, and he cant make u move in with him.
2007-02-09 09:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by book worm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋