How do you stop a guy from being OVER jealous!?

Question

I understand men are jealous but i feel my boyfriend is too jealous. I tell him all the time he's the only one i want to be with, and though we both had a past of cheating... we look over that. I am a jealous girl but i have to trust him and i do. He gets mad when i don't tell him about the simpliest things!! How do you make a guy sercure or is there no use in even trying?

Answer 1

To be trusted, you need to be an open book. You already have a history o cheating and though he has that too, it will be difficult for him to trust you automatically. Try and get him more involved in your life and do tell him about the simplest things.

Answer 2

You both had a past that included cheating and you cant figure out why he doesnt trust you? Well it might be the past. That is the end product of an affair. Most couples cant get over the past it takes work and thought and control over your temper, you will need maturity. He isnt secure because its already been done so will it happen again? And you can say all day that you trust him but I bet that this trust is thin? You cant stop another person from feeling a certain way? All you can do is regain trust and that takes a long time.

Answer 3

Whenever cheating is involved in a relationship whether in the past or present, this sets the stage of mistrust. This is why people have to understand that cheating can be extremely damaging to any relationship. These feelings of mistrust lead a person to experience anxiety, fear, insecurities of being cheated on once again. It is very difficult to get a person to trust again once cheating has occurred, but it has been known to happen. With a lot of hard work and constant reassurance you might be able to gain his trust. Trust is very vital in order for a relationship to work. With no trust a couple runs the risk of heartache and failure in maintaining a good, healthy relationship. This is the price one pays for cheating. It is just not worth it as you have already seen. The fact that you mention in your question "we both had a past of cheating" in such a casual way leads me to believe that you have not really looked at the intensity of hurt this has created in your relationship. Maybe this is what he is sensing from you. On the other hand, it has been known to say, someone that is always overly concerned about their partner cheating is because they are cheating also. Only you can be the best judge of this. Hope you think about all I have and that this will help you to value the word "trust". Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

I don't think theres anything you can do in this case but tell him how you feel, your doing everything right he's the one that needs to trust you and in a relationship trust is everything.

Answer 5

Once there has been infidelity, trust is very difficult but it's up to him to trust you and deal with his feelings, there is nothing you can do. If he cannot deal with it then he should leave you for someone he feels he can trust but don't tell him that- might hurt his feelings.

Answer 6

There's nothing you can do. Without trust you two are forever going to have issues.

Answer 7

you cant do anything its all up to him and yes he must trust you its really the basis of a relationship ---- i trust my lady completely --- she wants to be with me and if she did not she would tell me ---- you have my best wishes

Answer 8

you cant stop anyone from jealousey. u cant cope with insecurity of any guy who got a beautiful mate. because he will become unsecure when he think of loosing his girl friend.

Answer 9

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