i am dating a really good guy that does everything for me and would never hurt me in anyway, but i still love my ex and we are thinking about getting back together, even though we have had some bad times, I can't get over him..we have been broke up for one year and i still love him, what should i do???
2007-02-09 00:25:12 · 11 answers · asked by Lisa M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You still have a lot of feeling for your ex. Feelings are legitimate and cannot be explained away, but to make a good, clear choice, you need to sit down and make a list. On one side, your current boyfriend. On the other, your ex. List all the good things about each. Assign a numerical value to each---for example, you might give "10" to "Is tender toward me, would do anything for me" and a "2" for "likes my pets". Then, total up your list.
Next, list the bad things that are not good for your relationship--i.e., "Does not respect my feelings"--10. "Leaves socks on floor-2" and so on. You get the picture. Total up the numbers. Doing this will help you to see more clearly which is the man you truly want. Good luck, honey.
2007-02-09 00:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by ragged 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You are obviously a wonderful and wonderfully sought after girl if you have the choice of two guys you feel are both "top of the line." You are probably feeling that you would like to get back with your ex because you may be wondering "What if." What if he changed, what if we did things different, whatever it may be, what's to stop you from feeling this way about your current steady. Only if you did drop the one for the other, you would then be asking yourself "Why?" Why did I push him away? and I promise that question will hurt more than any other you will probably ever ask yourself. Your Ex got his chance, and blew it, don't give him another chance to break your heart, because he will.
2007-02-09 08:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes love isn't enough in a relationship. If you were always fighting and bugging eachother but still loved eachother that doesn't seem like a good relationship. yes fighting is normal but it depends on how much and how happy you were everyday with him.
but I think you should leave the guy you are with just because you don't love him. it's not fair to him. maybe you should take some time alone for a bit with no boyfriend. go back to dating your ex but not making it official and see where it leads. time will tell. but just make sure that you go to sleep happy with the man you are with.
2007-02-09 08:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what should you do?? you should slap yourself!
whine whine whine - shame poor baby girl, has a great guy and wants to go back to her ex...
The guy you are with deserves honesty. You go back to your ex in 2 years you break up again (just for luck you are pregnant), and you spend the rest of your life telling your friends about the one that got away. but then at the end of they day its your decision - you make it
2007-02-09 08:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by gailsbe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on waht you want.Do you want someone who can love you with all their heart or someone you love even if they may not love you.Maybe your ex is jelous and wants to get you back,but once you are his will he still want you?Please think carefully going back to previous lovers has often proved not wise.
2007-02-09 08:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try growing up. You are one of these women that like to be treated badly and believe me you will get what you ask for. Stop being childish and stay with the guy that treats you right!
2007-02-09 08:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes u think he wint hurt u again. Stick to a man that has shown u respect
2007-02-09 08:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,if you love your ex,& you can't get over him,then you should get back with him,But,if your ex hasall ready moved on with his life,then you should move on with your life to,but if your ex still loves you,then you should get back togethr,& leave your guy that your dating or whatever you call it.Ps:love is not a game,so don't mess with it.
2007-02-09 08:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by Caralet_Valentine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u have to be honest with ur current bf, tell him how u feel about ur ex and hopefully he will understand. tell him ur intentions are not to hurt him, but u still have feelings for ur ex and u want to act upon them.
2007-02-09 08:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the good guy my contact info!!! :)
2007-02-09 08:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by batgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋