okay am 22 i have had sex before(with non partners) but gave my life fully to christ so i am now celebant the thing is i have never been kissed. when i find a new girl should i tell her that i havent been kissed or should i keep it a secret, am afraid its a turn off.
2007-02-09 00:20:50 · 25 answers · asked by uncrowned ruler 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have given your life to Christ then you should be upfront and honest with a new girlfriend. You can't pick and choose the parts of religion you want to follow. If you want to be celibate but then lie or hide the part about kissing then your having double standards about your religious beliefs. By all means have your beliefs and good for you for having them. Just don't be a hypocrite. If a girl can't understand and appreciate you and your beliefs than she is not the girl for you.
2007-02-09 00:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if you have decided not to have sex why are you dating? Or have you decided now to start dating which will lead to sex?
anyway to your question I would say don't tell her. Just go with the flow. If it's the right moment you will know what to do. Just curious though.. where in the bible does it say that we should stay celebate just because we give our lives over to Christ? He clearly states that having sex before marriage is wrong, but he never says that we can't be married in order put him first in our lives. That is what people have made up to fit into their ideas.
2007-02-09 00:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you have sex with a "non-partner"?If you're alone - it doesn't count as sex - that's masterbation. For you to have had sex, I would hope it involved kissing. Be honest about your beliefs - only the wrong girls will be turned off - and that's a good thing. You will find someone who shares your values.
2007-02-09 00:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What type of sex did you have were there was no kissing? Just be truthful with you new girl.If they want to know tell them,if not domt mention it.What would matter to a girl is if you had no sex and not a kiss.So since you have already had sex a mention of not having kissed before will not matter.
2007-02-09 00:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've had sex but have never been kissed?
Were your past sexual partners all prostitutes (they rarely kiss)?
I can't imagine having sex with someone without kissing them. There must be more to this story.
2007-02-09 00:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhh... if'd you've had sex without kissing, that's kinda weird, no offense. And keep the "never been kissed" to yourself, to some girls it might be a huge turn-on, but to others, a HUGE turn-off.
2007-02-09 00:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by serenityfan76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen colsely to your intuition. dont over_intellctualize the situations. stay connected to your feelings. trust in love .confidence ,mental agility,peace and composure are the gifts of love. perhaps your lover likes you to behave in a certain way and you dont like it ? dont let fear .to be honest with your self and your lover . love brings the message of a need for spirtiual healing .only to be true to yourself and not simply conforming to what others expect of you .perhaps there are many feelings ,view .opinions and principles that you are having trouble experssing and living by , and supressing them is causing internal conflict. the time has come to leave ,old pain , places and patterns behind .trust your inner compass to guide you .remember the innocence and simple joys of yough are always available within.
2007-02-09 01:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by dayana_rose2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its OK wether you had kiss someone already and haven't still it doesn't really matter... even when you would come up to me and tell me that you still a virgin at your age i won't mind too, because that's how you are and i should be proud for what you are and for the things that you can offer me... I'm 25 and proud to say that I'm still a virgin and i definitely would love to offer all my first to my future husband, because even if i haven't met him yet, i know all this time i have been loyal to him. so be proud...
2007-02-09 00:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should know about the celibate thang - if she takes that ok the kissing part won't matter.
If she don't take the celibate thang ok - the kissing part still won't matter.
Not telling her is leading her on and not very nice.
2007-02-09 00:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if the next girl you find yourself wanting to kiss is one you truly like and trust and see something special in then tell her...it can help bring you two closer and it can help the foundation of your relationship...if its just some chick in a club then no, she doesnt need to know.
but, for your first kiss-it should be someone worth it. worth remembering. worth sharing with. worth telling.
2007-02-09 00:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by cryingtree1979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋