recently my daughter has been crying at my visitors when they come round,she cries and wont open her eyes.she knows some of my visitors really well and previously was ok with them.she isnt shy normally.before she would talk to them but now she wont even look at them..shes just got over a cold.was wondering if it could be that.
2007-02-08 23:26:07 · 6 answers · asked by juicyjosie06 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
They sometimes go through these stages, it may be that she wants mummy all to herself and by closing her eyes this is her way of imagining them away and if she refuses to talk to them they may even leave early, it sweet really.
2007-02-09 08:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe.
How many visitors are usually there at once? If there are 2-3 adults surrounding her mummy it might be overwhelming, especially if she is still feeling a little clingy after her cold.
Children go through all sorts of strange and quirky little phases.
A boy I look after when we was young (I think about 18 months - 2 yrs) if anyone so much as looked at him, never mind spoke to him he burst into tears and was incredibly clingy. He did this with strangers but also people he'd seen before, all be it not that often. He'd cry at other mums who were at the toddler groups we visted each week if they spoke to him lol.
But once he got to around 3 he gained his confidence back and now he is 4 and talks to anyone fine. I think he was just a shy child, expecially as a baby.
Perhaps dont make a big deal when this happens again. If she crys and closes her eyes, just sit her on your lap and say a couple of words of comfort - but carry on having a conversation with your visitors as normal. Dont put any pressure on your daughter to open her eyes, or talk to the visitors or even say hello if she doesnt want to.
Let the visitors talk to your daughter too - if they say Hi, and your daughter doesnt respond maybe answer for her and you be the one to say Hello back. If she wants to talk she will - but dont put any emphasis on the shyness cos sometimes that makes it worse and harder for the child to regain their confidence.
I'd say this is a perfectly normal phase - and to just let it flow by. I am sure she'll be gossiping away to the family friends in no time. (and you'll probably wish she'd leave them alone then!! lol)
2007-02-09 07:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by xxangel_allyssaxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I am sorry to hear your daughter is becoming upset.
It is possible that due to feeling unwell your daughter is acting in a way that is unlike her normal behavior. This is common in young children.
It could also be a case of jealousy as she wants you to herself.
Alternatively, has there been a change in her life? Are you having another baby? Have you made new friends? Perhaps she has stopped giving her a dummy etc. A big change or even a small change in routine could have upset her. I know a young girl who was very happy and would interact with everyone until she was potty trained, it took a couple of weeks for my friends to realise that their daughter was upset by people coming in because she was afraid of using the potty or having an accident around them.
I hope this is in some way useful. All children are different, they all react to different situations in different ways. It may just pass or you may realise the trigger. She probably just needs a little time. As awful as it sounds ignoring her may help. None of us like to see our children upset, but if she knows she is getting to you she may carry on. Also she will feel any anxiety you feel so try to relax when visitors come around and do not expect your daughter to cry as this may also set her off.
2007-02-09 07:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by NannyO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the situation, and I don't want to sound too alarming, but if it's specific people that are freaking her out, I would have to ask if they've had some sort of contact with them that you were unaware of. Is there any way she might be out of her comfort zone when you are with your friends? If there's a toy or some other object that comforts her, perhaps you could try using that to keep her calm.
Good luck.
2007-02-09 07:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she may be a little clingy since she was sick. Most parents give thier children a lot of attention when they are sick and she might miss some of it. Or she might be going through a phase when she doesn't want anyone around her Mommy. Hopefully she come out of it soon, but try giving her a comfort toy or something.
2007-02-09 09:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is closing her eyes, she is trying to remove herself from the situation. It means for the moment, she is overwhelmed by the situation. So don't rush it, don't force it, she'll come back around eventually.
2007-02-09 08:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by dakirk123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋