ok, my guy and i have been together for 6months. he's a good, nice guy. we do have our ups and downs of course - fights etc.
and now this other guy came into my life. i've known him since we we're young, though we never really got to know each other - our paths never crossed. but recently we bumped into each other at a family gathering...and started talking
i love my guy, but im afraid i might fall for this guy. i dont wanna get close, but for some reason or another, i find it hard to NOT meet up with this guy
how do i keep away and prevent the whole drama?
2007-02-08 23:22:28 · 14 answers · asked by candycane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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The question is: Are you willing to sacrifice what you have now for something you know nothing about?
You know you're guy for 6 months - lots of time invested. You're comfortable with him.
This other guy, it's curiosity that has your attention.
Remember, the "newness" will eventually rub off. It's cosmetic, at best.
I'd stay define YOUR current relationship to the guy and if he respects you, he'll accept your answer and wait for you down the road...if that happens. But, he must move forward, too.
Good luck!
2007-02-08 23:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before it's too late? Too late for what?
Most of us will always have a "grass is greener on the other side" mentality. Nevertheless, your attraction to this other guy seems to indicate that you are either not really in love or at the very least questioning your feelings for your current partner. If you find it so hard to NOT meet up with him, this is further evidence of that.
Honesty and communication are the keys to any successful relationship. If you truly want to prevent drama, you need to be honest and make your decision without going behind anyone's back. Drama is only born out of lies and deception.
2007-02-09 08:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really love your guy introduce the new guy to him and set a limit from the begining as to what the relationship between you and the new guy will be. Avoid giving the new guy the impression that you are interest in him. Above all be sure you really love your guy otherwise it will only be a matter of time before you fall for the new guy. The fact that you are seeking a way of not getting close to him, to me, is a signal that you are already having a feeling for the new guy. I wish you the best.
2007-02-09 07:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by oluezekiel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The answer is simple. If you don't want to break up with your guy then ignore this other guy who you just recently got in contact with. I know it sounds like a duh kind of answer but seriously if you dont want drama then dont put yourself in a place where drama could follow you. If you really love and want to be with your man then just back off of this other person. No matter how hard it might be cause if not you could really end up regretting your decision especially if you end up losing your boyfriend and then discover that this other guy isnt what you thought he would be. Now if you really do want to possibly have something with this other guy then thats a different story. Then you have to be honest with your b/f and do as your heart tells you to. In any case be true to yourself and follow what you know is right. That should give you the answer you seek. Good luck!
2007-02-09 07:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
spend more time with your guy and do some exciting things together to keep your mind off the other guy. Falling in love with somebody doesnt cushion u from finding other people attractive, but if u set your mind and heart on the current b/f it helps to push away such kind of thoughts so much that u just admire and leave there. Dont let yourself be tempted.
Good luck
2007-02-09 08:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it could be one of two thing
one is that you truly have feelings for this guy and if that is true be honist with you bf tell him you want to make sure you have made the right choices in life. in the end you and how you feel are what matter, you dont want to live the rest of you life wondering what if.
the second thing could be, and i think it is the most likely is that the newness in your relationship is wearing off and you like the attention you are getting from this new guy.
once you decide what the problem truly is you will know what to do, good luck hun.
2007-02-09 07:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by lissapony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tread carfully Dear, you may hurt someone badly ? Think all this about your Guy. What's his fault.
Imagine
If your 6 months guy had bumped into his old friend and had thought the same or questioned about your presence in his life then what advice would you give to your guy ?
To dump you ? or To Respect You as Always ?
2007-02-09 07:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Sunlight 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you are having feelings for him then you are truely not in love with your bf
when you are truly in love it does not matter who passes your eyes you know the one you are with is the one
you better sit down and think about what you are doing and what you really want
this may be mr right and you may regret it down the line
you relationship is still very young 6 months is nothing
so you need to figure out what you want and go from there
2007-02-09 07:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you want to really keep away...then spend more time with your boyfriend...i mean really some time only for the two of you...maybe you can go on holidays somewhere, that might get your head off the whole thing you know
think about your boyfriend's positive sides...about the stuff you just LOVE about him..if that doesn't help then think about the other guy's bad sides...stuff that maybe disgusts you or something
2007-02-09 07:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by zorro 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well if you love your current bf. you shouldn't worry about what feelings might arise from this other guy
2007-02-09 07:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by steph 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋