i want to know if the aloof, ice maiden thing still works with guys, the guy am crazy for and likewise seem not to want to progress things from phone calls(daily),phone sex and implied body language of wanting to be with me,but each time i suggest we spend time alone, he backs off.so i started the aloof thing two days ago.please i want to know from experienced men and women if it will work.please treat urgent. thanks guys.
N.B: he's my boss in the office.
2007-02-08 23:13:27 · 4 answers · asked by alley G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, It really depends on what type of guy he Is. But In general, the only way what you are describing Is not going to work, Is If he Is a really self confident guy when It comes to women. The whole theory behind being aloof and playing hard to get Is to create an attraction, based upon the whole I want what I can't have idea. You're a woman, so you know that I'm sure. Most women, or at least most attractive women get hit on all the time. So they have learned to be selective. They usually are naturally attracted to the guys who don't play into them like all the other guys do, and they are usually more attracted to guys who are self confident, and show It. So It kind of works the same way with guys. And being a guy, I would say that playing hard to get, as long as you do It correctly will work wonders In amplifying his attraction for you. Maybe he Is attracted to you, and really likes you, but Is hesitant to take things further because he is your boss. Just a few Ideas. Hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-08 23:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by mattkarkoska 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether the ice maiden thing works totally depends on the guy. I think thats mostly older guys these days, dunno for sure. I know my attitude is, don't waste my time, just show me what you want.
also, if youre already having phone sex with him, its probably a little late for the ice queen bit.
good you mentioned the work thing ..
*danger*
he might be very conflicted over that. We're always told, do not date at the office especially somebody who works under your direction. some places will fire you for it, its never a great plan. (or, he could be married. how well do you know him?)
If I were you I'd get him somewhere neutral (lunch or coffee/drinks after work) and try to talk. don't stress or overthink it, just ask him.
but know that if there is some secret or a definite unwillingness, it'll probably break the spell.
2007-02-09 07:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by netizen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bingo! He's your Boss. He's worried about "Implied Intent". I suggest, you have the heart-t-heart, with him. He might be already hooked up. and just wantin' the Friendship-thing. Remember, your Job may rest on how you handle this. (Hah! Being a woman, is such a drag!)
2007-02-09 07:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh... maybe the fact that if he crosses the line with you could cost him his job might have something to do with it??? If he thinks you're being 'flirty' that's one thing, but laying groundwork is another.
Stop being so selfish and forcing yourself on him... there's more at stake for him than a casual lay or fling.
2007-02-09 07:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by pattitutde 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋