A couple got married in India with full protection of the police and the local TV, on September 11 2006. 1000 guests including relations, friends and the local press witnessed the Hindu wedding ceremony.
The couple had originally met in 2004 via an Internet chat line. The girl, Subia, was from Plaistow, London, UK, and the boy, Ashvni, was from Gaziabad, India. The boy’s parents had no objections to the marriage but the girl’s parents were vehemently opposed. They even reported that the boy had kidnapped their daughter. The police investigated and found all was well.
To cut a long story short the parents were asked to express their views after the wedding.
The girl’s father, Abdul Gaur, said “The Internet is such a ‘rakshash’” (an evil entity) “ It came silently in the night and stole our daughter and got her married to a Hindu. Ashvni has married Subia just to get a British Passport”
(This view casts a slurs on Ashvni, the Hindus and finally on the Internet.)
The boy’s parents said, “Our daughter in law is a bit young to get married but it does not matter. If we did not support them, they could have run off and got married. We will live together as one family, with love and respect, even though Subia is a Moslem.”
2007-02-08 23:00:58 · 6 answers · asked by kayamat_ka_din 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The couple are 18 & 22 now. They first met on the Internet in 2004. Reasonable time to have got to know one another in any society. The question aims to get an idea about the views of the parents. How prevalent is it among UK Moslem parents? How reasonable is it these days? Are some belief systems finding it hard to cope with technology?
2007-02-08 23:26:17 · update #1
The boy's parents have the correct view, even though I think that the marriage is unequally yoked. It is unequally yoked because of religious beliefs and religious beliefs play strongly in a person's married life. The fact that the couple is living with the boy's parents is in accordance with ancient Jewish tradition of the newlywed couple living for a time under the roof of the father of the groom. Young newlyweds need supervision and support to keep them out of trouble. It doesn't sound to me as if the boy is after a British passport if 1000 people attended the wedding and it was covered by the media and had police protection. It sounds to me like he comes from a very influential family.
2007-02-08 23:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by Preacher 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Both are reasonable from their own points of view.
According to the Quran, a Muslim is not allowed to marry a polytheist, so the girl's parents were correct in saying that this marriage is invalid. Of course, that doesn't make the internet evil.
I don't know much about the Hindu faith, but if they have no cross-religious prohibitions, it is perfectly reasonable that the boy's parents would support the couple even if they didn't initially agree to the marriage.
Day and age has nothing to do with it.
2007-02-09 07:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by Smiley 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it depends how old they are, to some extent.
But it is the parents responsibility to enable - i did not say teach, their children to chose to do their own thing and learn to be happy with the responsibility of deciding for themselves, lest they feel guilty for not living up to anyones standards, when in life people should be confident of doing the right thing off their own initiative, and without disrespect or hurt to others.
Support is always the best way, if it is a matter of personal choice and not detrimental to anyone.
2007-02-09 07:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are the boy and girl?
In this day and age I think children should still respect their parents. If either parental set said no, then there should be no marriage, especially if these two are very young like they sound.
2007-02-09 07:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Aren't there just lots of parents in the world who would be over-protective and get mad if their children won't do something they want them to do, or won't do what the parents want them to do.
Some people like to be controlling - I think the girls father just wants something to blame for a situation he doesnt like - he chose to take it out on the internet.
I am sorry for any ignorance of the religion -
My personal view is people ought to be allowed to make their own personal choices - I dont think its right that others feel they should be able to control our decisions and actions.
2007-02-09 08:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by xxangel_allyssaxx 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Any decent parent should be happy their kids have someone to love them and snuggle them, and make them happy and not lonley.
Plus be successful in life.
2007-02-09 08:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋