Hi, I have dated someone with these disorders for 3 months, endured all sorts of traumas and a few other women, only to be told finally that he's bored, although he was nice about it. I am in complete shock and pain. Has anyone had similar experiences? I could use some input/help. ( are all men with these illnesses so incredibly sexual? Perhaps that's how they get away with it!)
2007-02-08 22:55:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mine was the opposite and rarely was sexual. However, he was an alcoholic to boot.
Its a roller coaster ride to put it mildly. You never know what to expect out of them and one minute they are fine and the next, all hell is breaking loose.
I personally think u should thank your lucky stars to be rid of him. I know i am and feel like i have a new leash on life and am beginning to find "me" again.
i was with mine for over a year, and the first 3 months were fantastic also as yours was and full of sex and love and affection. However, soon after it started to fall downward and kept in a downhill spiral ever since. each time having to bring him back up was worse than the last. he depended on me to help control his personality and it was very emotionally draining.
I am better off without that in my life, and i realize that now. i am glad u didnt have to go through what i did yet.
i think u should cut your losses and just move on. let the sleeping giant sleep.
good luck to u.
2007-02-08 23:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This may seem stupid but you need to take a longer term view and average out behaviour with a BPD. I'm talking from the wrong end of the dis-order and I know some of my very short term behaviour in the past has been despicable, but I /we can live with the overall results after a longer term. My experience is that the polarisations get weaker with time and I'm, hopefully, a lot easier to live with now. But it can be a nightmare experience and you should review your own abilties before taking it on. ( are all men with these illnesses so incredibly sexual? Perhaps that's how they get away with it!) I'm in tears lol .... seriously and unfortunately not the case for me - I am not and have not (I have this on good authority from someone over my shoulder)
2016-05-24 00:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I once had a girl fiend with this same problem Dealing with her mood swings was a b*tch We finally found a Head Dr. who found a medication that worked really well for her with minimum side effects . And yes she was extremely sexual. She was up front about her mental problem with me right from the start. After a while I got to the point where I could tell when an episode was going to take place. We had quite a few good years together once we got her problem under control. Unfortunately she succumbed to cancer a couple of years ago.
2007-02-08 23:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by bisquedog 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ex was very up and down and I never knew from one day to the next what one I was going to get. Never confirmed as a sufferer of Bipolar etc. Maybe just a mild case but certainly hell on earth to live with at times.
Well out of it now. As for the sexual side. Yeah there was fireworks there. You might be onto something there. Maybe I need to find myself another nutcase :-)
2007-02-08 23:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
hi i am a sufferer of this and i find it too hard for any one to have a relationship with me due to the way my moods swing i dont believe that is the cause of his sexual behaviour though as to be honest were he on any kind of medication his want for sex would be the first thing to go as that is the main side effect of medications for this
sorry if i didnt make much sense
2007-02-08 23:02:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a cop out, and exuse for being a dirt bag. and by the way I have been manic(bipolar is the newest term) seens I was 16 (20 years) and have ADD, and I don't cheat.
2007-02-08 23:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah. one of the symptoms of the manic side of bipolar disorder is hypersexuality. i have bipolar disorder and when i was dating my ex i had a serious porn problem. but i never cheated on her. obviously she broke up with me. not because of that though ( i told her countless times) but because im crazy. she was mean and i cryed. a lot.
2007-02-08 23:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by flamemaster_lang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ohhh yeah. been there. the worst part has to be that they are completely unpredictable. you have to be really sensitive with them, and even when they blow up on you you have to keep your cool. i wouldn't say not to date a guy who's bipolar, but just know they are like a big responsibility. and yeah the guy i dated was pretty much a horn dog too.
2007-02-08 23:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well when one has a mental illness they will in tern make up for that in another area.. the key word is mental illness and it affects them in ugly ways and it makes for difficult decision making and constant restlessness.. you should know that it's nothing to do with you and it is all on him.. don't feel bad about this towards yourself...
2007-02-08 23:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you getting paid to be a caretaker?
Better yet, are you claiming him as a dependent on your 1040 Tax Form?
If not . . .
They get away with it because you don't value yourself enough to say, "I refuse to be your personal doormat!"
2007-02-08 23:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋