2007-02-08 22:42:20 · 17 answers · asked by df a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I believe that many of these women are trying to fill up a void. And they do not realize that not only to they worsen their problems, but they also bring a child into the world that automatically gets the short end of the deal. But each situation is different. I know a lot of people that have come from what many would call "poor" or "unstable" families. And so many of them have gone on to do awesome things, and many now have families of their own that they hold extra close to them and work hard for. Because they know how it is to be on the other side of the tracks. If you are gonna ask about the women, you also need to bring up why all of these men are out having babies when they are as you say " in a financial or emotional mess". Or when they have no intentions at all of helping to raise, and care , and nurture the child.
2007-02-09 02:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Angela K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, sometimes birth control doesn't work. Also, have you had children? Because I have had 3 and no matter how much you plan and save, you still can't cover everything. Sometimes the hormones that come with giving birth cause the "emotional mess". Also, there are plenty of resources out there for people who are in financial trouble. They are there for people to use...it's called "charity" for a reason. IF this were a perfect world, there would be no hunger, no fatherless children, homeless, etc. But guess what...its not a perfect world no matter how hard some people try to make it that way. I know many people who planned and saved for kids, those kids are now spoiled rotten, with no respect for anyone other than themselves. In the old days, people had children to help out with the work at home. Now, kids are given anything they want and people wonder why this world is going to pot.
2007-02-09 08:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by ivy_trick_mess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Really, I think it is because they do not plan for the future. They for the most part are not "planning" to get pregnant with the babies they get pregnant with, then they don't plan for the security and stability of the life of their child. I believe even a welfare mother can be a "good" mother if she is trying to better herself, and show her child or children there is a better way of living than on welfare.
There are "bad" mothers in all socioeconomic classes. It is not restricted to just the poor ones. Yes it is irresponsible to keep having kids when you can't afford them, but remember it takes two to tango. Your question only asks about why the "women" keep having kids they can't afford, financially or emotionally, but don't ALL children have TWO parents? A lot of women wouldn't be in financial hardships if the men they had these babies with would help care for the children.
2007-02-09 09:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by jenteacher2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ones that are in a financial mess know that the "babydaddy" is going to get the bill and they can use the kid to excuse them from all kinds of responsibility.
The emotional mess ones do it so that they have someone that they think will be forced to love them.
I've got an ex that is both of those combined.
2007-02-09 10:28:31 · answer #4 · answered by J D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
And around here birth control pills are free from thehealth department. I even know of one young woman (20) who has had to take 2 pregnancy tests in the last year and then did not use protection because she thought that she could not get pregnant because she never used protection and has not got pregnant before, at least not until now. And her boyfriend is only 17 and has a kid that he does not take care of. They are just getting stupider and more selfish all the time
2007-02-09 09:17:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, First, lets get some issues straight...they do not get more assistance from welfare...in our state you are made to work, or look for work, or take classes, until you find work. Not all welfare mothers are ignorant either. A lot of them were married, and left behind. There wouldn't be so many welfare mothers if the fathers took their responsiblities serious. A woman doesn't get pregnant by herself. I can't believe all the generalizations here. I get tired of people saying our tax dollars are going to welfare. If you look up the facts, less then 1/2 a penny on the cent goes towards welfare...compare that with what they take out of taxes for Social Security....a huge difference!
Second of all...I believe every baby is accounted for in God's eyes, He knew about their births way ahead of time. What are people saying that only the rich can have children? Circumstances change all the time, to look down on someone who happens to down on their luck having a children is being narrow minded. Until you walk in their shoes, I wouldn't judge.
Third, who else is staying home with our children, but welfare mothers? Society is raising our children because our economic system makes it impossible to live on one income. Maybe if society didn't look down on Mom's staying home, our children could be raised in the home, not in day cares, with babysitters, or in the street.
Fourth...No I'm not a welfare mom, but I give credit to those who are, and have to face the ignorance of others. They could have been selfish and had abortions..if you want to talk about people being selfish.
2007-02-09 09:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish I knew the answer to this. I think contuing to have children when you can't even take care of yourself or the ones you already have is just wrong and selfish. I have managed to never get anyone pregnant and my wife has never been pregnant and is in her 40's. It's called birth control. More people should use it and protect themselves from bringing more children into this world that aren't taken care of properly.
2007-02-09 10:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some women are so irresponsible, they don't realize that children require 100% attention and they have many needs, so they just pop them out as if they were puppies.
But some women are dedicated mothers, but as humans they can get impregnated by mistake, and they simply don't want to abort their child. That's why i don't judge anyone.
2007-02-09 07:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by indie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1)intetionally: i think wen there is problem in any marriage or between a husband and wife they try to solve it by bringing a new life to this world.but they forget the fact that this cant be a solution instead it brings new ways and types of problems.
2)Unintentionally: sometimes they do it unintentionally and they dont wanna abort or kill a child-may be bcoz of humanity or any religious purpose.
2007-02-09 07:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by StylishT 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they know the government will take care of them financially.
2007-02-09 07:29:17 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋