I don't really know this guy well at all; we've met a total of 3 times but it's one of those things where you meet someone and just talk, and talk, and talk. I've just moved to this city, btw, and don't know many people so I was delighted to meet him, since the locals are usually not friendly. He has a girlfriend, which he was clear about at the beginning, but he occasionally is vague about this, i.e. in mixed company he announced that his girlfriend is buying an apartment for herself and that they decided they had no future. last night, he said something like, "I can't start to cross that threshold because I'm afraid I'll get carried away." I asked him to specify his status with his girlfriend, as by now I was pretty confused. apprarently she feels he is not in love with her--the details are prolly unimportant. The point is, I was a little frosty. I apologised today, saying I really valued his friendship, but now he won't talk to me at all... WHY? I'd like to remain friends.
2007-02-08 22:38:41 · 7 answers · asked by beatrice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yup.
"I can't start to cross that threshold because I'm afraid I'll get carried away"
This is analogous to hearing a tornado siren from a man.
He is saying HE AIN'T READY. You, however, continued to push his buttons (whether intentionally or unintentionally).
He is trying to sort out his thoughts and God forbid, feelings (we men have two ==> happy and angry).
Since he wasn't happy ==> you only ruffled the other side which is why he won't talk to you.
PAY ATTENTION when a man speaks. When a MAN says "I'm afriad" that is doublespeak for,
BACK THE HELL UP OFF ME RIGHT NOW! I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE ><$* I'M DOING.
2007-02-08 22:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Beatrice, It must be hard in a new town trying to meet new friends but if someone is this touchy (insecure) probably has a relationship but being a man always on the prowl (sorry I am a man and married but have some insight) the I would sugesst stear clear.
Join some soical clubs sports or community group and meet genuine people for friends hope this helps.
2007-02-08 22:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by David R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family that you are moving slowly in the relationship, you do not want to rush things, they will respect this. Do not ask him what the relationship status is, that's not necessary. Tell the family that when you commit to someone they will be informed, then let the matter drop. Its not up to your family to run you or your relationships, this is unnecessary. If you want the guy to move faster ask him when his next day off is and that you would like to spend the day and maybe the night together, if that does not do it nothing will.
2016-05-24 00:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you need friends, but would you really deal with this the same way if you had a good support group? This guy's spinning all over the place. Even if it's true that he's breaking up with his girl, do you really want to be the rebound girl? Or even if you just want to stay friends, it sounds like he had other plans. Now you just may be another woman in his life not giving him what he wants... Bad situation. Give him some time to get his head together, maybe he'll come to his senses.
2007-02-08 22:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, honey, it is obvious he had some other plans for use of u, and being friends was not even one of them. by asking him honestly and openly about his status with his gf u made him realise u re not that dumb and simple as he might have thought and won't be able to play u like a violin. so he has no other use for u. forget about him, he wasn't going to be your friend on the first place. he was going to use u for sex. probably once
2007-02-08 22:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess he is gay... Likes you lots, but cant't cope with the crap..
Female status sounds good in context but not good in real life.. He needs to come out... OUT.... Good luck honey
2007-02-08 22:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by jillrodenlee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are friends why hasn't he introduced you to her? dont contact him you have apologised it's up to him now be careful. keep trying to make new friends.
2007-02-08 22:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋