I have a boyfriend who asked me to move with him to Paris and he wanted to introduce me to his family and friends. We have not been living together before. He said he wanted to start a family but just need to wait few years and see how it goes between us and need to work really hard for next few years before he can proceed further. He doesnt like me to have any contact with other guys or my exs. And he has no contact with any girls either. Sometimes he has doubt when I told him that Im out with friends. He worried that I might look at other guys and might like them. Though I kept telling him I only want him, he still have doubt. He realized that its not healthy for the relationship and said he would work on that one. I could go on with this and on.. Well, so far what do you think? Is he for real?
2007-02-08 22:00:19 · 18 answers · asked by WONDER GIRL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what do you think?
no one can know what he is like because we're only hearing one side, yours. go with your heart. if your family and friends are here, it'll be expensive to see them.
2007-02-08 22:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bear in mind that it isnot so much what one says as it is what one DOES or does not do. How do you feel? Confused a bit about him but is loving him predicated on whether HE loves you?
He sounds a bit insecure from what you say. If you love him, it is up to you to remove his insecurity if you can. If it is not possible his insecurities might be too deep rooted so be cautious.
His future plan seems logical. Before having children it IS a good idea to see if the relationship is indeed intact so there are no additional feelings hurt if it is not. And frankly, only through living together the daily routine one can find out if a relationship is a go or not.
2007-02-09 06:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by emiliosailez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys say i love you for many reasons......But i dont know how he has been to you so....yea wot do u think? Does it feel like real love??
If u wanna know if it is real love then read on..............
Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also. Infatuation is just love of emotion. Real love, though, is love of devotion. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real love both the emotions and the will are involved. Next, a person "fall into" infatuation, but "grows into" real love. Guys, have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint? This is infatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction; often you don't know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus, infatuation is mostly biological. Also remember, never tell a girl you love her, unless you are willing to marry her.
Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless . Infatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself and the "feeling" than it is in the other person. Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get.. Love unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person. Lastly, infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation. This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love.
LOVE:
Love is patient. The word translated "patient" means to wait patiently for the fulfillment of expectations. When you have diffculty dating this girl and she does not want to come out, if you truly love her, you will not complain and blame her, you must look at the situation from her point of view - maybe she is having some problems which prevented her from coming out. You must react to it with patience and understanding. Next, have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the relationship and make it progress faster? Sure you have! Love, however, is willing to give a relationship time to grow at a natural pace. It does not push but is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties. Love is Kind. Love seeks to encourage and build up others. It respects the feelings and emotions of others.. It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy.
good luck :)
2007-02-09 06:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by NiceGirlRee;) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is for real, because if he wasnt he wouldnt care what you do. Of course being overy jealous is not good for a relationship, at least he acknowledges it and said he will try to correct it. He sounds like a great guy. Also, I dont blame him for not wanting you to contact ex'es because I wouldnt want my guy doing that either. Only you know for sure though. Does he lie a lot? Do you have reason to think he isnt for real?
2007-02-09 06:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult one but sounds like he's a bit controlling. You need your own life as well and should be able to do your own thing.
As for the lieing thing. Do you get good eye contact? If not then he's hiding something. He should be able to look you in the eyes when he says things or answers your questions.
Don't be falsed into anything if you are unsure.
2007-02-09 06:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't move anywhere with him until you feel ok doing so...your boyfriend does sound as if he has issues and once you move in with him, the likelihood is that these issues will be compounded...you know how you fel, but it seems to me you are already unsure...i dont think its very healthy to cut yourself off from the opposite sex...him or you...then there is no foundation for trust....and the likelihood is that one of you will rebel against this 'cage' at some point anyway....i would suggest that maybe you both find some friends, even other couples and go out and socialise in the company of others...allow each other to breathe as individuals...or one day you will feel smothered....good luck...;0)
2007-02-09 06:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally he sounds a bit controlling to me, although he could be a very insecure guy! i don't think he should be stipulating who you should be in contact with. He should trust you and believe you, and if he doesn't he has a problem. If I were you I would consider strongly whether he is the man for you. Or could find yourself living with a bully who totally controls your life.
2007-02-09 06:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by Eevie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think he really loves u but he is a very insecure person... he trusts u but he is afraid that he is not good enough for u and he thinks u might want to look at some other guys... he needs to have faith in u and himself... coz if this continues on, ur relationship might not gonna work, especially after both of u got married... good luck! hope u guys gonna be able to work this out...
2007-02-09 06:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by aurora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be insecure, but it sounds like he is a bit controlling, we are all free spirits,and no one has the right to control another person, if he keeps asking what you are doing, and not believing you, you would be better out of it, as jealousy and mistrust have a habit of growing
2007-02-09 10:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds jealous, possessive, controlling and insecure. After you move in with him, things will just get even worse. Trust me, even though he wants to work on his problems, he will not change because it's just him, it's in his nature.
2007-02-09 06:05:34 · answer #10 · answered by s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is defo for real. im a bit like that with my GF. I cant stand her being in contact with her ex. Give him a chance. Dose he like alot of attention?
2007-02-09 06:10:23 · answer #11 · answered by charming 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋