Girls and guys would you feel a bit hurt if you were in a relationship of 5 years pushing 6 and your relationship was going good, living together ect.. but your boyfriend hasn't proposed or isn't planning to anytime soon. We have talked about it because I brought up the fact that I wanted to have children and he said he wanted to be married to the person first, thats fine but that was two years ago. We fight about it all the time to the point of it being uncomfortable. Everytime a commercial comes on the t.v that is about baby stuff or something similar he always either starts talking about anything or gets up, or reaches for his drink just so were not left staring at the t.v watching this ad.
It really annoys me and I've told him that i've noticed this pattern but he acts as if though he doesn't know what I'm talking about.
Basicaly he has said he wants marraige and the children, he has always said this but, helloooo it's 5 going on 6 years, I'm over it!
Whats your opinion?
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20 minutes ago
Oh and I don't hassel him about this at all, 6 months can go by with out a mention, but I always bring it up around 6 months because I'm sick of nothing happening, I don't want to waste my time with this person if he keeps jerking me on!
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The point is I want to have a child, but he says he wants marraige first, well if he wants marriage first he can ask me. Because other wise it seems to me he's putting of the proposing cause he doesn't want kids!
2007-02-08 21:53:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say if your by the 5th year if he ain't asking, he most likely won't. at least not with out a big push. You need to move out. start moving on with your life. if he does want what you want he will wise up, if he doesn't your better off.
2007-02-08 22:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is my opinion only and in no way is it fact about your partner or your relationship. Firstly he obviously loves you deeply because he wouldnt have stayed living with you for 5 going on six years. I think he has gotten comfortable with your lifestyle and is scared of change, as I was when I lived with my GF (wife now). I always wanted to get married and have children but for men it isn't as much of a rush to start as it is for women. My GF of 6 years (now wife) fell pregnant and when she told me i was really scared. I was 30 years old and shittin myself. Anyway we got married, had our first beautiful daughter and two more lovely children now. Looking back I feel so stupid that I didn't ask her earlier and would have never thought being a husband and a father could be such a rewarding and wonderful experience. I often thank 'god' for the blessing he has placed in my life, a truely wonderful wife who is supportive, caring and so so sexy, and 3 wonderful happy healthy children who make my life complete.
Probably the man of your life just needs a little gentle persuation, support and understanding from you and not nagging from you. Remember a smart woman can manipulate her man (in a loving and good way) to achieve nearly anything...... so good luck with your man.
2007-02-09 06:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by markobhave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn are you tired of waiting for him or not? cuz if ur not tired, then suck it up and continue agonizing internally over what you really want and accept the fact that he doesnt want to talk about what YOU really want.
and if u are tired, you'd either leave him or bring this thing to an end in some kind of way (ultimatum whatever).
its obvious he doesnt want to marry u tho- he doesn't even want to talk about it or compromise or anything. stop being ignorant to reality
2007-02-12 20:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by teeteewoods69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he was not playing games. It's either he lied when he said he wanted a marriage, or he doesn't want any kids after marriage. Either way he is not ready for a family. Communicate with him.
2007-02-09 06:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to commit to a family relationship... Have fun with your partner, but it will go no further.. Regards. Ask him what he really does with his so called friends... It's not what he says....Take care sweetheart...Thinking of you...Friend from a long time ago....
2007-02-09 06:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by jillrodenlee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋