I knew my ex gf for 3 years and dated her for a year and a half. We were great together and knew what we wanted in life. I confessed my love for her 6 months into our relationship. I mean I was totally in love with this girl. She is still amazing to me, even now we have broken up for a month. The thing is, she had a ex bf of 5 years. She was still in love with him while I confessed that I loved her. The thing was that she went back to him about half way through our relationship and I was hurt. I couldnt trust her, but I still loved her. She came back to me 2 weeks later saying it just wasnt the same. I believed her, or should I say my love for her made me believe. So we dated and things were great, then small fights happened regarding him from my side and hers. Then last month she broke up with me for this new guy she met totally unknown to me out of the blue. Its crazy, how I just couldnt come to grips with trusting her, even though my love for her was high. What must I do, it is hard
2007-02-08 21:48:17 · 16 answers · asked by stephen b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were ready for commitment, she is not. Simple as that.
She is definitely amazing but not ready to settle down.
Here's what is worth more before you are married: attraction. There are many one-sided or lopsided relationships where one person is convinced that the other is equally interested when such is not the case.
Here's another valuable item: truth (honesty, candor, reality). This statement goes with it: You cannot lose what you never had. It's easy to fool yourself. I have done it more than once. Gradually you learn to see the truth that is there rather than the illusion that you wish was true.
Recommendation: get into a group of single men and women; develop friendships. Square dancing, church groups, service organizations. Go help someone rather than just feeling sorry for yourself.
2007-02-08 22:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never commit yourself to someone who's still in love with someone else. It's a sign that she doesn't think much of you and sure enough, when she's off her old love, she picked another new guy and not you.
Chicks do not care much for guys who love them more then they (the chicks) love them (the same guys) back. Act cool next time. Play strong. Say something like:"Hey, I do care for you but if you're still feeling that strongly about that old boyfriend of yours, I'm outa here. There are lots of other fish in the sea. You dig?" Let the chicks run after you, not you after them.
2007-02-09 06:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are hurting....I have too...I'm a female on the other side of the fence.. But believe me, you can be the best of all the guys in the world, but if your heart is somewhere else... You are OK for now...She loves someone else, hate to say it.... You are a stepping stone..I was too! She had to step from the guy she loved to someone else and you were the middle guy...Hate to say it but move on... Hope ur ok.. Feeling for you....Been there. Take care, and go out with ur friends, they are true....
2007-02-09 05:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by jillrodenlee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not stay with this girl. apparently she has some issues and i dont think she is very involved with you enough to make a commitment with you. Just go on, cause you dont want to married to her and find out that she will fall for someone else later..Good luck and try to get a DVD of : The Secret to better your life. Good luck and Peace
2007-02-09 05:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by tabushi11209 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard, my ex-wife did that too, once before we got married, and then ended the marriage, to date someone I had never heard of till 3 or 4 weeks before she filed. she kicked me out with little more than a pot to piss in, and took my child away from me. I tried to drink my self to death, for about 6 months, then realize the ex wasn't worth it. It takes time.
2007-02-09 05:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love would only grow & frutify is trust is there. In absence of trust, the opp person is a stranger whose motives we don't know. Trust is & has to be the bedrock of any relation.
2007-02-09 05:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by TheSage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust , man she does not love u because if she did she would never went out with this new guy or thought of her ex boyfrined.
2007-02-09 05:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by PalTouSamLeb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she betrayed your tust which (you prob have noticed) has affected your love for her. so i thnk to love some one seriously you have to trust them. then defy your love but always keep up the trust to have a heathy relationship. i think its more trust then love always you'll get hurt more in the end. but its more even 50/50 both ways
2007-02-09 05:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO.
How can you have love in its purest sense when it is built on a foundation of lies, deceit, and deception?
How can you have an egg without a chicken?
How can you have dusk without dawn?
How can you believe in a God if you have no faith?
2007-02-09 05:53:54 · answer #9 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget love and trust, it's all animal lust.
2007-02-09 05:51:44 · answer #10 · answered by bestbet77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋