2007-02-08 21:44:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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Fantastic idea!
2007-02-08 21:51:10 · update #1
Don't bother! They are all the same ****!
I did so much to mine, I cooked - she commented
I took her flowers - she found me the mistake without accepting her pain in my *** she was!
I didin't called her - she disagreed in everything I was happilly trying to share
I didn't call? - she commented that i never call anymore
I went to her house - she found a way behind my husband's back to put me down
I didn't go to her house? She complained she was going older and soon she will die one day.
She's still alive and kicking.
Hope not for long though, before she kills me from heart attack.
Find a way to avoid her, find excuses or run as fast as you can before it effects your health!
2007-02-09 03:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by Spark S 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you have to. Do you want to stifle your true feelings for this woman? Try to find something positive about her and concentrate on that. She might just have a good redeeming feature. Perhaps a common interest is her darling child. Ask on advice on how she coped with various situations in the past and praise her methods. For heavens sake give the old bat some flattering charm make her feel important. Soon she will be eating from your hand.
2007-02-09 06:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you sat down and had a conversation with her. Sometimes out of respect we have to agree to disagree and yet still remain polite. Hope your husband is not under stress because of your dislike because that is not the way forward to a happy marriage surviving. If you try to include her more and even then if she declines you offer the next time again. Then she should see that you are making a conscious effort and if that fails then I would basically ask her "what her problem with you is".
2007-02-09 11:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never been married but god have I had some nasty mothers of partners I was with so almost Mother In Law. it's a real tough one. If she was a nice person and liked you then you would like her. I hated my ex's mother and she was far from fond of me so no love lost there lol.
I suppose you have to just try and like her but it works both ways. If she's nasty and rude to you then I would just tell your husband the situation and not waste your time. You can't please women at the best of times and when they get to a certain age god. (Sorry girls) You are one so you must know what I mean lol.
And as for sharing your kitchen with the Mother In Law. Don't go there :-)
2007-02-09 05:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Jacki,
I think the only way without being horrible and causing trouble in your relationship is to put her in the small talk person list. These are the people you don't really like but have to get along with (remember we can't get on with everyone) Only ever make small talk and if they try to do the in depth things then just nod and smile at them whilst thinking of what you are gonna make for tea. lol lol It works honest. Eventually you wont have anything to dislike her for because she isn't allowed the stuff that means something to you. It would be great if you then put her in to perspective and learned to love her. You never know lol
2007-02-09 05:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by : 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you dislike her, what has she done to you, have you tried to get along with her. Just remember something, your mate was once her child, and as much as she may love you, you took her baby away from her, and maybe she is having a hard time giving up her child. Work real hard to get along with her, she could turn out to be your best friend.
2007-02-09 06:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi jackie ,its hard putting your feelings aside for someone you dislike, just imagine your husband wouldnt be here if it werent for the old bat lol i never liked my mum in law either but its only in the last couple of years (been together for 16) that i can say i quite like her .
2007-02-09 06:41:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thers nothing much you can do reallly except for bite your tongue. I had the exact same problem eith my boyfriends mom i just didn't like her and although she had'nt done me a big wrong i knew there was always competion between me and her for her son and she always butted in things. I learnt that i couldn't really slag her off to my man because although he would tell if she was in th wrong it was still his mom but i've learnt just to basically ignore th annoying things she does and not let her ruin my life with my boyfriend.
Good Luck
2007-02-09 05:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try and find things you admire her for -
bringing up your husband would be one.
Then ask youself if you dont like her because you are alike in some way?
Then tell her why you admire her or ask questions so you are making an effort to like her - hopefully she'll see you are interested and adult enough so in turn she'll react in the same way.
Good Luck.
2007-02-09 05:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My first MIL was and still is horrible, thankfully im not apart of their family anymore. Your disliking will never go away, its a case of grin and bare it unfortunately. Just make sure she knows your a better person than her, be overly nice to her, it will bug her and give you great satisfaction.
2007-02-09 08:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by NLP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋