My girlfriend and I had a fight the other day and it’s coz I messed up. She found a note from a girl I was flirting with at work. It meant nothing to me. I just flirted with this girl and had no intentions to cheat on her. Not even one bit. But, my girl doesn’t think so. She’s really upset with me and won’t take my calls and when I went to see her, she wouldn’t let me in. I miss her a lot and I am really sorry for what I did. I’ve left messages on her answering machine that have gone unanswered. I have been planning a special dinner for us on Valentines day, that being the day I planned an asking her to marry me. I know I shouldn’t have flirted with this girl and I don’t know how that note found itself in my stuff. I know I was wrong. How can I at least make her talk to me and hear me out? I love her and want her to be my wife, but I don’t know if she’ll take me back. Can someone help me out? I just need to talk to her.
2007-02-08 21:41:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The contents of the note is a bit obscene, so I won't say exactly what it read. I and this girl at work almost started something a while ago, but when met my current girlfriend, I said goodbye. This whole flirting thing just started out as a joke and I really never meant to take it further. In fact I even told the girl that. I'm being totally affected by this coz I know she's the one for me. This is definitely the woman God made for me and I hate myself for messing it up with someone I don't even care for. If I don't call her, won't she think I don't care or something?
2007-02-08 22:12:12 · update #1
It sounds like right now your girl needs some time to think things over and cool off. In the meantime, even though it meant nothing to you, look at why you had a flirtatious correspondence with your coworker. What are you getting from it? It sounds like you're playing with fire, and I suspect you may have entertained the thought of things possibly going further. You definitely should make it up to your girlfriend--but in the meantime, really rethink if you're ready for marriage. It sounds like you may not be ready yet. Good luck!
2007-02-08 21:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by flygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
writ her a letter, explaining everything .... letters are easier because you can say absolutely everything without being interupted. I don't see a problem with flirting, we all do it and I bet even your girlfriend does it but the note has placed doubt in your mind. Did the girl at work know that u had a girlfriand because if she did shes the ***** for causing this - by placing a note in with your stuff. Write her a letter every day and deliver it with a flower. If you can maybe you could get the girl at work to apologise for causing so much trouble in the first place. If she still wont talk to u by valentines day set up a dinner in her front garden.... humiliate your self if you have to... it will be worth it if she says yes!
2007-02-09 05:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by pinkchampagne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all...what did the note say exactly?
Ya I can see why she'd be mad. But you're right, by not calling, she may think you don't care. You're going to have to really prove to her with your actions that you really love her. Send her flowers, apology letters, call her...don't give up. Let her know how much you regret what you did and what an IDIOT you were! (No offense) She may forgive you someday, but as far as proposing goes, it may be better to wait until things are better between you two. If you are able to get her back, let things go for a while until you've gained her trust again. That may be better timing. If you asked her too soon, that would just make her think it's for the wrong reasons.
2007-02-09 05:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all don't panic! if the love between us is as strong as you feel, than it will conquer all. give her a little time, because it's hard for her to understand just like that that there is nothing between you and that girl. I'm a girl and i sympathies with your girlfriend. when she will feel it's time to talk to you, she'll let you know. and as for your proposal, she may not see it as something that you were planning to do for some time...it will be like: "I'm sorry baby. Look, we can get married if that makes you feel better!". Really make it special. So, with a little bit of patience and an original plan to ask her the big question. don't loose hope.
2007-02-09 06:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by here4u 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't talk to her yet because you are still in denial.
If the flirt meant absolutely nothing to you, you wouldn't have been attracted to it.
You are ATTRACTED to things that matter to you!
This is the universal law of attraction.
Your girl can't hear you out because you haven't come to embrace what a flirt does to YOUR EGO and YOUR MANHOOD.
When you acknowledge the veracity of this observation, then you can come to your girl correctly and work on a plan to avoid this 'ish from happening again.
And quite honestly, YOUR INTENTIONS are irrelevant.
The road to hell is paved with plenty of good intentions.
The fact is -- you knew better and you still did it anyway, and you and your girl need to work on YOU and figuring out why you do this mess when you have a good woman at home.
Good luck.
2007-02-09 05:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly loves your girlfriend and want to marry her as you said, be patient and keep on trying. She's upset and angry right now so wait until she cools down first. You may miss out on this Valentine's Day but there will be many others in years to come...
Also, you must challenge yourself on your true feelings towards your girlfriend and towards that other girl at work. Sometimes people do things so they'll be caught and thus allowing them to be relieved of having to make a commitment. Be true to yourself and use this downtime to reflect on your real desires in life.
2007-02-09 05:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say u could try to send her roses. at da begning. and put somethin dat really meant for her in it. or do her a cd wit ur fave song. then c how it would turn up.. i mean u have to tell her find away. tell her if dis is da last u gonna do.. be4 anythin happen is to talk to her hear her voice.. and u wont do sumthin bad or use her time. tell her u want her to hear u out.
and if she wanted to hear u out. tell her da truth about ur feelings and u didnt mean anythin bad wit it.
dont make dis gurl go dude.. find her somehow.. even if u should stay outside in da coldweather and wait till she comes home from work.. wait. do sumthin or give her sumthin dat means a lot to her. and then i think she'll hear u out.
good luck wit that.. ps i think its nice dat u wanna marry her..
2007-02-09 05:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by lil_g_aka_nice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love her, why you flirting with someone? if you really want her, then why you thinking of others? simple questions.. but it affects.. think.. and same may make her realize, dont overact, dont bent yourself. give some time. and in that time, make her realize that you are for her.
To get something you have to loose something. so you can loose your desires for others if you have...
Good luck!
2007-02-09 05:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by Ameenz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time.Stop calling her all the time. Hand deliver a 'I am sorry" card to her place. I hope she will talk to you before valentine's day. Good luck.
2007-02-09 05:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well show her u really love her like showing up @ her work and asking her there and then
2007-02-09 05:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by Miranda M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋