My frnd loves one boy .Both of them r the same engineering col. boy is 2 yrs senior to the girl. The isn't good bcoz he only wants a physical satisfaction from girls & only for that he is playing the "love" game with my friend. My frnd is unable to understand this boy's game and she seriously thinks that the boy loves her a lot as bcoz she does so.B4 this my frnd has already ditched by many other guys and she is hanckering after lone .I don't want my frnd's life to destroyed out of a illusionary love. how do i ask my frnd to forget abt the boy without her being mistaking me bcoz whenever b4 this anyone has said anything abt the boy she disbelived them.PL HELP . ONLY SERIOUS ANSWERS PL.
2007-02-08 21:32:58 · 5 answers · asked by sohini b 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Ask her how he shows his love for her. If she can come up with things (other than sex), then there is a chance. If she can't, then it might get her thinking.
2007-02-08 21:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by salsera 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes yes yes, all very concerned for a friend! I have heard stories like this since time began and it has nervier been something that one can solve. No matter what you say love or the believe in love will conquer all. She sounds like a lonely sort of person and has seized this declaration of love with both hands and wants to embrace it like its the last time she will ever find anyone she loves.
Certainly you can say your piece that she is just being deceived for sexual gratification but it may be that your friend will still carry on and even dump you off her friendship list.
All you can really do is tell her what you feel and say that if it all goes pear shape you Will, be there to support her.
Good luck!
2007-02-08 21:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by Shelty K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you know someone who would be a good partner for her introduce them and try and get her views set on someone who would actually respect her.
She probably doesn't want to feel as though he is using her because she has gone through so much before and doesn't want to be let down again and to have let her self get into a bad situation again.
You need to show her it is fine to be alone to wait to find the right guy to show her this guy is just using her, maybe quote what he says about women (anything degrading) what hes done to women before or maybe even exaggerate the truth a bit to save her from a horrible situation, being used is one of the worst feelings to experience and it is good you are wanting to keep your friend safe.
It is hard to sway her mind, maybe say you overheard him saying something bad about her about using her (I know lying isnt the best of things but in this situation it doesnt sound like much will persuade her otherwise) and help her find a nice guy who will respect her.
I hope my ideas help and you get her out of this bad situation
2007-02-09 10:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could talk to your friend and express your concerns over the man in question. Unfortunately it is unlikely that she will listen; and will persue him anyway. Just make sure you are there for her, if it does turn out how you think it will; with plenty of tissues and a good shoulder to cry on.
I think your friend needs to look into the reason why she feels she needs to be in love. I know from experince that love finds you when you least expect it. I hope things work out.
2007-02-08 22:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by victoria r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring another Female around, see if he will
hit on her to with your friend being there.
She might have to learn the hard way.
2007-02-08 22:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋