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Need some help very badly?
ok frist anyone that takes the time to read this thank you so much.were do i start lets i meant this girl in augest of 2004 we became good freinds at work and best freinds out side of work in augest of 2005 we moved in toghter as roomates as things woul work out 2 weeks before christams we were both signle and things happened with us. then i march my uncle killed himself,then in april my best freind killed himself,then i may my father passed away,then in june my mom was in a bad car accidentt and is just now geting around.then i july her mother moved to floraido (we live in colorado) so she has no family here she then began to drink alot(her mom left her for 6 years when she was a kid)i shut out ever one i could not handle the steess or the fear i was having i quit my job a good job on oct 31 (yeah i know)we then stared fighting a lot we were not talking and are love life stoped.we got in a fight on dec 2 the cops were called and she moved out to a freinds house that we both worked

with i tryed to get her back and we were going to then we got in a fight on the phone and she stop talking to me dec14 on the 27 i talked to her she said she had stared seeing other man.then i called again on jan 7 she told me she was very happy with him(ok still with me here)on jan 28 are freind called me and said that her and her new boyfreind had been drinking alot toghter and were fighting badly so she told her that he was not welcome there anymore so instead of stop seeing him she moved to his house(huh i know)now she is not talking to any of are old freinds so on saturday i ran in to them at the bar it me and her new boyfreind almost fought.then on tuesady i again ran in to her outside the bar her new boyfreind saw me and stayed insind she told me she love him and he loved her so i went home later that night they got in afight and they craked her windsheild.then i ran in to her to night at the bar they had gotten into it again and he jumped out of the car

and she came to the other bar were i was playing pool we talked for 2 hours and played pool toghter she then told me that her new boyfreind was going to jail for 90 days on the 16 and that she had called her dad and he had sent her money to move back to arkansas were she is from she told me she loves him and she still love me.she drove me home kissed me a fw times gave me her fathers adderes and phone # in arkansas and kissed me agin and then told me she was going to chads.what hte hell i going on here.how can she love him more an me after 50 days with him and 3 years knowing me.and then kiss me and tell me she still loves me but she is going there.what in gods name is going on here some one please help me out here .what the hell am i supposed to do????????????????????????????...

god yes i want her back i am crazy about her i just shut down for awhile after my father died she said i did not want her when she was there for me i did but i was going thur hell cant she understand i might not have been there then for a good reason but i am here now like i was when i meant her

Answer 1

First of all, if you are an adult then quit playin childish games. You never want to hang on to someone who does not really love or want you. Many women out there Will try to keep any and every man close that they can when life feels uncertain and they do not want to be alone. They will even keep the one who is their last choice just because they do not want to be alone.

IF what she says is true, that she loves you then you need to give her an ultimatum, tell her if she really does love you then you need to show it by leaving the other guy and being with me exclusively again. If she is not ready to do that then she is not ready to leave him and is just trying to keep you on the "hook".

Don't fall for it! Stand tall and move on if you have to you will be better off. Good Luck!

Answer 2

God have you guys been through the mill!!! Really, I think you just need to have time out from each other - and just completely NOT see each other for a while.... You both seem to be confused and such raw emotion from all that you have been through. I think you both need to address the other problems that you guys have had with your grief from loss, you especially. Perhaps once you have dealt with your losses and sorted your life out, then see how you feel about this girl and how she feels about you.
Sorry, its just my honest opinion from what you have written. I wish you all the best.

Answer 3

sorry for that, but whats your age? and what you doing? and whats her age? give sometime yourself and think what you are and what you wanna be... according to that, you have to make your next step! good luck!!

Answer 4

She's crazy. Run like the wind...

Answer 5

marry her