In one week i feel i already knew her, i feel i understand her perfectly well, i wanna marry her immediately. but parents and friends insist i court her, why do i need that.
2007-02-08 21:29:05 · 13 answers · asked by dessy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've felt that way too in the past, but remember this: you have nothing to lose by taking time to get to know her better. It's a great thing to start off a relationship so close, but take some time to spend four seasons with her--you can't possibly know all there is to know about her, and taking that time will make for a good marriage later on.
2007-02-08 21:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by flygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are under the influence of a chemical reaction. I suspect that there is also a good dose of immaturity at work here as well. Your parents and friends are more than reasonable. Are you blind? The divorce rate in this country is at over 50% and you want to marry a girl you've known for a week. You'll do well if you even make it to the alter after 2 years of getting to know her. There are a million issues that can split a marriage and these things take time to sort out and the best time to do that is before a commitment is made.
You need to find out how you feel about things like power and work and money and children. Even something as small as the hours you keep can wreck your life later on. I don't think you understand the gravity of the decision you are considering. Think with your head, man.
2007-02-09 06:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A week ago you met a fabulous woman that you want to spend the rest of your life with. What's wrong with that ? Absolutely nothing except it's well known to everybody who has been in love, love, while being magical is also a kind of madness. Emotionally, you are being wracked by all these blissful feelings. Nothing wrong with that either. But so far it is like a boat without a rudder in a very stormy sea and the only person who can't see that is you - because you are madly in love. (And her, by the sound of it.)Emotion has to be balanced with rationality. If you love her so much that you want to marry her, why don't you give her courtship. Courtship is not merely a rite of passage, it's telling her other things besides how much you want to marry her. It shows your respect and it allows for that madness to cool off so that you see each other in a sane light.
2007-02-09 05:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by John M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my girlfriends dated a guy for 3 years very happily and finally they got married only to get divorced within 2 months. Long courtship, short marriage.
Another girlfriend of mine decided to get married after knowing the guy only for 3 weeks and now they've been happily married for several years. They knew they were meant to be for each other right from the start. Short courtship, long marriage.
My parents dated for 4 years and now they've been happily married for 30 years. Long courtship, long marriage.
I also know a woman who got married after a week of courtship and got divorced also within a week. Short courtship, short marriage.
These are 4 real life combination examples of how the length of a courtship may result in the lenght of the marriage. So, you never really know:)
I would say, follow your heart and intuitions, but also give courtship a chance!
2007-02-09 05:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by belindaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me there is still allot you need to learn about her. What is her fav milkshake? How many times a day does she take a bath? Does she drink the milk from the bottle? How does she look when she wakes up in the morning? How many lovers has she had?
Take time to get to know the real her and to show her the real you. All good things comes in good time.
Most of all enjoy the ride, if it is meant to be it will happen!!!!
2007-02-09 05:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by Spokie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only new my husband 2 weeks and we where married. The 7Th of February we celebrated our 2 year anniversary. Go for it. Some of the longest lasting marriages have been pre arranged or very short engagements. Good Luck
2007-02-09 05:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by FromJLM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you're off to a great start! Love is great - but blind too!
You've passed the first test of love: chemistry.
The next test is the Love is not love if it seeks to change part.
Time together will let you see her - warts and all.
You need to see her bad habits and then see if you can accept them. (And she needs to see yours so she can accept them too.)
How does she react to a flat tire or other unexpected bad thing?
Is she good with money...does she mind if you go out with the guys for a weekend...does she have guy friends...does she respect or insult your family/where you came from...something in her past that she understandably wouldn't mention during week 1...etc, etc, etc.
Don't rush to marriage - enjoy the discovery.
Plenty of time for marriage.
2007-02-09 05:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Stan W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your current net worth and divide it by 50%-- Because when you are broker than a glass bottle dropped from a 50 foot building, you will understand why it's important for you to do your research and homework.
2007-02-09 05:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by her you mean him right, cos no straight guy uses the word court, its not the 15th century.
but seriously you need to get to know the person in every facet of life, a week is like a second, you cant possibly know anything, listen to your folks and friends they seem to be from the future, 21st century, freaky stuff
2007-02-09 05:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by king of spain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rubbish!!
it takes about two years before people show their true self, that's a big reason relationships break up because once they see the real person they don't like them!!! don't make it just physical
2007-02-09 06:02:12 · answer #10 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋