I've been with my bf for 1.5 yrs, through which I've had doubts but ignored them because I thought I wanted it to work. I rushed into this relationship after breaking up with a man I loved but who was so unstable. I didn't have any time to myself to heal from the other relationship because my current boyfriend pursued me so hard and didn't allow me to be alone (he moved to where I was living).
I've been apart from him for a month for the first time since we've been together and all my doubts have come through. I realize I am not in love with him and he deserves someone who can give him 100%. I began to tell him my thoughts and we were communicating alright- he was understanding where I was coming from.
But then he crashed at my sister's and she didn't log off her email and he went on her computer and saw the mail I wrote her-blunt, no soft edges and words I wouldn't have said exactly to him- now he hates me and he's hurting and I'm hurting too and I don't know how to feel better.
2007-02-08 21:26:31 · 8 answers · asked by boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From what you wrote, i gather he almost rushed you into dating him. If he really loved you, he would have seen you were not in love with him. but he only listened to his feelings.
It's good he read the mail. he'll get over it. Best thing u could do was to leave him instead of lying to him more. so don't feel guilty.
2007-02-08 21:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by Med82 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your both hurting but you did the wright thing.You try to be kind but still get the message across and they wont listen.He had no right to be at your sisters house to start with, since your no longer together and hes a sticking beak for going through her mail,that really shows his true colours.Serve him right he heard the bear face facts without cushioning the words with tenderness, he brought it on himself for being a sneaky.You will both get over it in time.Just know that is was a decision that had to be made,one you can now hopefully live the rest of your life happy with the right person
2007-02-09 06:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by deb m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have done nothing wrong. You have done good
1. Now he will learn to live without being loved.
2. He knows u dont love him, he will not expect from you.
3. He will concentrate more on his Growth.
4. He knows he's not acceptable in present state.
4. So, He will try to become a better person.
5. Good, u have given him time to grow without support
6. He will be a stronger person.
Hurts, definitly, its hurting both sides, solution can be
Be Good Friends without expectations, adavantages are
1. No hurting on either side
2. You know him so well that you can further direct him
3. You owe him a lot of affection, do it like a Friend
4. Your bond of being friends will transform into more meaningfull, positive and understandable outcome
5. You both will be support of eachother without expectations
2007-02-09 05:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by Sunlight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The damage has already been done you need to just let it go he will heal in time there is nothing worst than trying to make things better if what was on the computer was the truth. Sorry just let him go.lol
2007-02-09 05:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were even lucky to realise that you dont love him, alot of people spend their lifetime decieving theirself and their partner claiming they are in love when they are not even sure of what they feel for him.you see life is just like that, you move on..praying that one day you'll get who you deserve. you dont have to kill yourself by the way when you left your last bf, you found some other person, so don't worry he'll find some other person and you both will move on with life.
2007-02-09 05:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by dessy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. That had to hurt.
Well, realize that he's better off knowing the truth and moving on. At least this way, there's no question about unclear communication.
2007-02-09 05:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its better to end early than late before he sank too deep. Time will heal. Good Luck n Bless You!
2007-02-09 05:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by Joy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to say her i love some one llease help me perpose her
2007-02-09 05:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by sunil t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋