Girls and guys would you feel a bit hurt if you were in a relationship of 5 years pushing 6 and your relationship was going good, living together ect.. but your boyfriend hasn't proposed or isn't planning to anytime soon. We have talked about it because I brought up the fact that I wanted to have children and he said he wanted to be married to the person first, thats fine but that was two years ago. We fight about it all the time to the point of it being uncomfortable. Everytime a commercial comes on the t.v that is about baby stuff or something similar he always either starts talking about anything or gets up, or reaches for his drink just so were not left staring at the t.v watching this ad.
It really annoys me and I've told him that i've noticed this pattern but he acts as if though he doesn't know what I'm talking about.
Basicaly he has said he wants marraige and the children, he has always said this but, helloooo it's 5 going on 6 years, I'm over it!
Whats your opinion?
2007-02-08 21:26:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh and I don't hassel him about this at all, 6 months can go by with out a mention, but I always bring it up around 6 months because I'm sick of nothing happening, I don't want to waste my time with this person if he keeps jerking me on!
2007-02-08 21:28:38 · update #1
The point is I want to have a child, but he says he wants marraige first, well if he wants marriage first he can ask me. Because other wise it seems to me he's putting of the proposing cause he doesn't want kids!
2007-02-08 21:47:35 · update #2
First of all no, don't propose to him, I firmly believe that isn't good idea! But I am sorry to say I think you should just move on. I have read that men usually know they want to marry a girl, or that she is the "one," within the first 6 months of knowing them, though they may not ask that soon. But 6 YEARS and he doesn't seem sure?! He's just not the right one for you, dont waste any more time! Tell him you want and deserve more, and just go out (though I can't promise it wil be easy) and find the one who will give you that :-)
2007-02-08 22:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by Iced Mode 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why pay for the cow when you are getting the milk for free?
Which is to say, you are living with the guy. He is getting all the benefits of marriage, but none of the detriments (like being responsible for you if you get sick or something). So why would he want to change the status quo? He's in a win win.
I'd say you've waited long enough and need to move on.
2007-02-09 05:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy won't marry you if he lives with you. He has no responsilibity, can leave when he wants etc. Like the other person said, Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free.
2007-02-09 07:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by kayef57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there something wrong with you proposing to him? And do you really want to spend the rest of ur life with this guy? And will being married to him change anything?
2007-02-09 05:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by Max 77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to spend the rest of your life with this guy, why don't you just bite the bullet and propose to him yourself!?
Different, romantic, and gets the issue resolved sooner!
Think about it.
Take care Lx
2007-02-09 05:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by Lauren A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the old saying Goes, why buy the cow when you get the milk from Free.
2007-02-09 05:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That wedding will never happen for you two. It's time for you to move out and move on. He does want to be married to the person first - it's just not you.
2007-02-09 05:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So propose to him already...
2007-02-09 05:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋