Im currently living with my boyfriend but last 2005 I met this man.I fell in love with him.He's the man of my dreams.We had a very good relationship.From the very beggining that man knows everything about my relationship with my boyfriend,but he keeps on waiting for me.I decided to leave that guy and push him away to find somebody new.When I found out that he's with a new girl,it hurts me so bad.I just woke up one morning a felt nothing for my boyfriend.If you will ask me what was the reason why I choose my boyfriend over that man,its because of security reason and the lenght of my relationshipwith him.I still have communication with that guy.I told him that I still love him.Before,he was very vocal about his feelings for me and willing to take me back,but now,it seems he's undecided whom to choose between me and his girl.
I want to leave my boyfriend so I could have time to think...but what if my decision is wrong and find myself that its my boyfriend that I really want?
2007-02-08 20:50:28 · 13 answers · asked by Angel Sophia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you can't have the two of them at the same time. you have to choose. you have to take all the risks. do what you feel like doing regardless of the consequences. if you're not sure with your feelings anymore, better to have your time away from your boyfriend. staying with him won't help. even if he doesn't find out about your relationship with this guy/the relationship you had or your feelings rather, you're still hurting him. be fair with your boyfriend.
come to think of it, if you choose to stay with your boyfriend, would you be happy? would you stop asking "what if" or "if only"? staying for the sake of your security is not the right answer it has to be because of love.
or, if you choose to be with this guy, take all the consequences.
anyway, if your boyfriend is your mr. right, you'll find it out. don't set your mind with things that's just good for now.
goodluck.
2007-02-08 21:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by poochini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you have no clue as to what you want.
YOu are with your boyfriend and have been pining for another man the entire time? And now that other man has found someone else, now you want to be with it? I think you have a classic case of wanting what you can't have.
But let this be a reminder: the grass is not always greener on the other side.
And why are you even with your boyfriend? How would he feel if he knew what was going on?
2007-02-09 00:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may leave your bf and just find out that guy is not leaving his gf for you. He has every right to do that have you really thought about everything. Do you want this other guy just b/c he has another women in the picture and if not than why didnt you leave your boyfriend before he got another women.Security reasons is a shallow excuse to keep with anyone love conquers all. Good luck
2007-02-08 21:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you feel that way about that guy because he is new to you. You've known your boyfriend for a while, so there isn't really too much to tell him. Try to remember why you fell for your boyfriend in the first place, and focus on that. Maybe you can help spark up your relationship with your boyfriend. Just don't get married thinking "If this doesn't work out, we can just get divorced." Remember, Marriage is a life-long thing.
2007-02-08 20:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by Joshu@ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are confused now. But it seems that you LOVE your boy friend. The feeling you have for the other guys seems not more than just liking him. You said he is the man of your dreams but not enough to fall in LOVE with him. You just became upset when you heard he is involved with another girl. Though it seems that you are a little bored with your boy friend when you meet this guy, I think you still LOVE your boy friend. But you should quietly listen your self and ask your heart what you are up to. You will soon know what you really need and decide.
Good Luck!
2007-02-08 21:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made a mistake by letting the man of your dreams fall through your hands. Yes its scary starting a new relationship, especially after being in a long one. But the truth is, you have to learn to follow your heart and not just your head. If you don't listen to your heart you will never be able to find the right man and you will always have something lacking in any relationship that you try to be in.
2007-02-08 21:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by iluvfishing25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love your boyfriend, so leave him... Stay single until you have sorted out your life... Then decide if the other guy is worth fighting for...
2007-02-08 20:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you are in a pickle aren't you? I would suggest breaking it off with all men until you are mature enough to know what you want. It is not fair of you to cheat on your b/f, you are one of those girls who "wants their cake and still eats it". You just want everything, well one day those poor men will see that you have been playing with their feelings and they will find women who treat them how they deserve to be treated, with respect.
2007-02-08 20:55:11 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are very confused. why don't you just face the fact that you don't love your boyfriend anymore and stop tormenting yourself???? huh?? do that and tell him that you can't be with him any more, and go after the other guy. life is too short to be boolsheeting around ok?
2007-02-08 21:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by Moyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dream guy never loved you from the on set he was just glad to have you on the side, you also do not deserve your boyfriend so just let him go and start a new life
2007-02-08 20:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by ntu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋