need some help very badly?

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ok frist anyone that takes the time to read this thank you so much.were do i start lets i meant this girl in augest of 2004 we became good freinds at work and best freinds out side of work in augest of 2005 we moved in toghter as roomates as things woul work out 2 weeks before christams we were both signle and things happened with us. then i march my uncle killed himself,then in april my best freind killed himself,then i may my father passed away,then in june my mom was in a bad car accidentt and is just now geting around.then i july her mother moved to floraido (we live in colorado) so she has no family here she then began to drink alot(her mom left her for 6 years when she was a kid)i shut out ever one i could not handle the steess or the fear i was having i quit my job a good job on oct 31 (yeah i know)we then stared fighting a lot we were not talking and are love life stoped.we got in a fight on dec 2 the cops were called and she moved out to a freinds house that we both worked

with i tryed to get her back and we were going to then we got in a fight on the phone and she stop talking to me dec14 on the 27 i talked to her she said she had stared seeing other man.then i called again on jan 7 she told me she was very happy with him(ok still with me here)on jan 28 are freind called me and said that her and her new boyfreind had been drinking alot toghter and were fighting badly so she told her that he was not welcome there anymore so instead of stop seeing him she moved to his house(huh i know)now she is not talking to any of are old freinds so on saturday i ran in to them at the bar it me and her new boyfreind almost fought.then on tuesady i again ran in to her outside the bar her new boyfreind saw me and stayed insind she told me she love him and he loved her so i went home later that night they got in afight and they craked her windsheild.then i ran in to her to night at the bar they had gotten into it again and he jumped out of the car

and she came to the other bar were i was playing pool we talked for 2 hours and played pool toghter she then told me that her new boyfreind was going to jail for 90 days on the 16 and that she had called her dad and he had sent her money to move back to arkansas were she is from she told me she loves him and she still love me.she drove me home kissed me a fw times gave me her fathers adderes and phone # in arkansas and kissed me agin and then told me she was going to chads.what hte hell i going on here.how can she love him more an me after 50 days with him and 3 years knowing me.and then kiss me and tell me she still loves me but she is going there.what in gods name is going on here some one please help me out here .what the hell am i supposed to do??????????????????????????????????????

god yes i want her back i am crazy about her i just shut down for awhile after my father died she said i did not want her when she was there for me i did but i was going thur hell cant she understand i might not have been there then for a good reason but i am here now like i was when i meant her

Answer 1

First let me say OMG you poor thing OK you know the old saying if you love something let it go if it love you back it will come back when he goes to jail she will be alone and you can then try to talk to her and let her know how you feel you need to open your heart to her and just lay it all out and be truthful as you can and with any luck she'll see how much you love her she sounds like she needs someone to help pick her back up she may need a shoulder to cry on good luck and I hope she sees just how much you do love her

Answer 2

If I were in your shoes, I would hope that I could think clearly enough to let this girl go. Let her go to dad's, away from you. This will be good for her and good for you too. Just stop being in touch with her and find someone else. You've already tried and the friendship didn't work. Keep reminding yourself of that. Her saying she loves you now...she's trying to get over her feelings for her other boyfriend and you're next in line, just because you happened to be there in the right spot at the right time. She needed a hug basically. Now, please try and forget her. She'll only ruin your life. Wish you luck there.

Answer 3

Firstly I am so sorry for what you have been through.
You really need to understand that you are going through terrible grief , you have lost so many close people , that this will send you crazy and want to withdraw.
What a shame your Ex couldnt see that .
I really think you need to be on your own right now and sort through your feelings , you dont need more emotional crisis right now .
Do you have someone close you can really talk to , someone who can just listen ? I think you need to confront all those feelings.
As for the Ex , never beg or plead , if she loves you she will be there , if not , she aint for you and there is better love out there.
hang in and dont give up , you need some comfort right now
XXX

Answer 4

Sounds to me like you both have seperate issues about yourselves that you need to work out before you can even begin to have a relationship again.

First, you need to deal with all the loss that you have had. I would say that from what you describe you are suffering from Major depression. I would suggest for you that you seek some theropy. Get you fixed and not worry about a relationship at this point.

She herself has things from tha past that haunt her. As you say her mother left her for 6 years when she was a kid. These types of things stay with a person.

As far as you two having such a troubled relationship that the police had to be called is enough to speak for itself.

Work on you, before you try to work on an "us". I know that sucks to hear something like that, and heck you may not even listen, but take it from someone who has been there and knows. If you do not have yourself together, it is very hard to be "together" with someone else.

Best of Luck!

Answer 5

During the time that you had all that pressure. You really messed up by just quitting your job. That was selfish in your part, considering you had a responsibility with your girlfriend at the time. BUT it had to be, it was meant as a lesson for the both of you.. For you to understand that you must continue to live and love… BUT also it was meant to teach you something about your girlfriend., to show you that she did not truly love you enough. …for if she did truly love you, she would not have gotten involve with that man, .so quickly… in fact, she probably knew him, while she was with you. Regardless, you just don’t get over someone you love so quickly unless you really do not love the person any longer. THAT MEANS-SHE DOES NOT LOVE YOU, and you are so messed up that you think she does love you, she told you she loved him, at the bar, and when he was going to jail.. She has betrayed you several times, she has no patience and she is not meant to be with you.. She can easily move in with you again if she wanted , too, but she chose to move away and yes , she left you her phone number. She does not love you, she left it so you do not loose contact with her, in case she needs something from you.. By this she has betrayed the man she says she loves that is going to jail.. SHE LOVES NO ONE but herself.
If you were to call her or go after her, she will betray you again and leave you when you need her most in your life.. When her boyfriend comes out again, she will go with him, unless she meets someone else.. You do not need her in your life.. She is a classic USER, she must be either attractive or good in sex.. You must not love yourself enough… you need to break that hold… and go find the woman that will have patience with you., but before you need to get a job again, and remember when you meet another woman , not to be selfish , when things are bothering you, they also bother your mate.. As for as your ex -girlfriend to break her hold on you…. You need to find another woman to love., you need to love yourself more, you deserve better.. You need a life of calm, not bitterness and fighting all the time.. You can end up being shot or dead…if you continue with your ex-girlfriend…to break the hold you need to keep busy, so it is best to work and save that money., and on your day off go find that other woman that will not betray you..

Answer 6

What exactly do you want? Do you want her back? Send her a note saying thank you for helping me through my rough times, and you want to be there for her. If it was a violent fight, don't bother. You've been through a lot together, remind her of that.

Answer 7

I dont know what your question is exactly.But Im really sorry for your best freind and your father.It seems you have had really stressfull and sad days.

Answer 8

Way too hard to read and understand what you want. Please learn to use capital letters and periods to make sentences.

Answer 9

And your qn is?