I'm getting married (very soon) and my Fiancee and I have a requested monetary gifts since I am going to uni soon. We will be living with his family for the next two years so we don't need furniture etc.
Some of our guests have asked that they buy us presents anyway, I don't need anything & anything we need we buy. We already have too much furniture etc. Any suggestions what I can tell them? Thank you.
2007-02-08 20:49:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In answer to questions and some of the stupid comments from people who did not read my question correctly:
I am 20 years old. My fiancee is nearly 22.
We have requested money, IF they choose to bring a gift because we do NOT need anything. We have said, they can give us a gift if they want, but we don't need anything.
There is no point getting a kettle and toaster if they'll only be in storage for 2 or 3 years.
2007-02-08 21:20:34 · update #1
I don't think any of you are actually reading the question. She has been asked by GUESTS as to what they would want as gifts!
Next time they ask you or your groom, let them know your situation (that you are going to uni soon and are living with the folks for a little bit) and that you really DON'T need gifts, but if they insist on spending money on you, to get gift cards from whatever stores you'd like to shop around in. If you don't give them suggestions, they could either just guess on what to get you (put it in storage or upgrade the parents items) or get you gift cards like you have stated.
2007-02-09 03:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MONEY!!!! I give money all the time because that's usually what couples need, especially for the honeymoon. With cash you can do whatever you want or need--and it prevents you from getting 6 toasters, 3 blenders, & 2 microwaves! You can request monetary gifts, I've seen it most times. And I gladly give. Usually it's customary to give enough to at least cover your meal and drinks at the reception. DO NOT give out any checking or savings account info because of ID thefts! Take checks or cash.
2007-02-08 20:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't request any gifts. It was terribly rude to have asked for money. If you are totally self-sufficient, that's fine. Wedding guests are not "required" to buy gifts, most do because they want to give something to the couple starting out. And, should you get duplicates, there's nothing better when your coffee maker goes on the fritz to be able to go to your basement and pull out a brand new one from a box! I think you need to think a lot more about the matter of a wedding - what it is for, and what priorities should be.
With you paying for your own wedding, it's a shame you are not handling things more independently. With gifts, you could be set up to live as a couple on your own in a small apartment or suite.
2007-02-08 23:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It is NEVER appropriate to ask for money! If you don't need anything, don't register anyplace.
It is appropriate for your parents, if asked, to say you won't be setting up a home for a couple of years. That is all. Then the guests will know that you could use the money instead of a gift.
If you were older, you would already know this! Whatever you receive, just thank the people and be grateful they gave you anything. That is the way adults do it.
2007-02-08 22:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I understand what you mean, sometimes money is best options when there is nothing you particularly need and it helps out in difficult financial situations. Since living arrangements are taken care off and not setting up house, makes sense to request money. I would just put it on invites, if you haven't that done them, that presents aren't necessary and should they wish to give you anything, please consider a money donation in an envelope as at this time, that would be of assistance to you. Its not rude, many ppl do things that way now.
2007-02-08 21:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by OziGirl_222 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's really kind of tacky to ask for money from your guests. me and my husband lived together for about 2 years before we got married so we had everything we could possibly need. so what i did was registered like normal and found a few things i liked that we didn't have then i just put random things on the list. what i didn't want, i returned. you get the money anyway and they never know the difference. and you'd be surprised at what people get you that you never thought about... i ended up getting some awesome things that we didn't have.
2007-02-09 01:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by akp_02 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you can't request anything. Really low class. Especially to request money! The only thing you can do is if people ask, say, "Well, we will be living with relatives for awhile, so I can't think fo anything we really need right now." Most people will get the idea that money would probably be the most useful gift. But you certainly can't ask for it directly!
2007-02-09 06:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps get the word out that gift cards to restaurants would be great, or other date-like things. I know that my love and I adore these gifts, they are wonderful excuses to get out of the house and spend some time dating! :)
2007-02-09 00:14:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just what makes you think they wanted to send you money in the first place. you are not a true friend to them, you seem very materialistic. asking for money..they are probably insisting to send you a gift to show you what they really want to give you and you still do not want it..that makes you a bad host.. nooooooooo i would not give you ideas on how to decline their gifts, it is an insult to them, your guess....
you are about to get married.. marriage should be a blessing...if you have everything... then tell them the best gift to me is that you attend my marriage.. just attend, please. ..................
keep the material aspect out of your marriage.. center more on love...don't put a price on friendship...and have a happy marriage.
2007-02-08 21:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by bankone1111 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can tell them to get you anything, a few surprise gifts are awesome to open.
2007-02-08 20:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋