Ok here is the problem ..... my dad passed away when i was younger. my little brother is walking with me. the problem is i want my dad to you know "kinda" be there! any ideas of how i can do this! you see i was thinking of having a picture of him and pput it in the seat next to my mother but that seemed kinda weird. so i need some ideas. please help!
2007-02-08 19:58:40 · 12 answers · asked by HaZeLeYeZ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Put a picture of him in a locket and wrap the chain of the locket around the stem of your bouquet. Have the photographer take a picture of this detail.
Another option is to put a picture of him on a table at the reception, along with pictures of other loved ones who have already passed (including from your fiance's family), decorate with rose petals and candles, and you have a memory table.
It's important to do something to commemorate your dad, but don't do *too* much or you'll risk dampening the celebratory mood of your wedding.
Congrats on the wedding!
2007-02-08 20:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by Pookie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When my best friend got married, her husband's mom had passed away a couple of years before. What they did was have a bunch of pictures set up at the front of the church and there was a candle lit during the ceremony. The pictures included his mother, his grandfather and one of his grandmother's as well as grandparent's on her side. Basically, it was an "In Memory Of..." table with the candle. Now, it started me thinking because, when I get married, my mom won't be there (she passed away almost 4 years ago). However, the church I'm getting married in doesn't really do this kind of thing so my thought is to have the grouping of pictures on the table where everyone will put their presents at the reception. You could work it in however you want but include pictures of more than just your dad and it won't feel quite so weird. Mine will include my mom, my uncle, my grandfather & two great grandparents as well as whoever on my fiance's side.
2007-02-12 16:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have your brother wear something of your father's.
And I don't think the picture thing is a bad idea, but maybe instead of putting it on a seat next to your mother, have it at the table where your mother and brother will sit at the reception.
If your dad had a favorite song you could play it at the wedding.
I really hope this helps! Good luck with your wedding!
2007-02-08 20:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by SaintsFan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was raised by my grandma, and she passed away this past summer. at my wedding (in march) we are going to do a thing with roses. there will be 6 roses, 1 for each person who cant be there with us. when we have readings done, i'm going to have part of a reading explain how she couldnt be there and the roses are to commemorate her and the others who couldnt share our day with us. this way, its not a CONSTANT sadness over the ceremony, just brief and meaningful, and hopefully not too much of a tear jerker. the reason being, the whole point with weddings is to celebrate and be happy with family and friends, so you should keep tear jerking sad moments to a minimum, but still have something special, in your case, a vase up front with one rose or flower of choice...even add more if there are other relatives you would like to remember. hope this helps!
2007-02-08 20:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by crazydaisyodu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have seen a seat left empty, with a single rose on the seat where the father of the bride would have been seated. Ive also seen a favorite reading, poem, and passage read in memory of your father during the ceremony.
2007-02-10 07:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lynny K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is yes have the picture and maybe speak about your family not in a sad awake type of thing but your happy thoughts, what he might of said about your spouse to be, how he would be looking or how he'll love the daughter and father dance or despise it because he had 2 left feet. whatever you decide make it a happy memory, you don't want to have love ones in tears of sorrow for your wedding date should be filled with tears of joy.
2007-02-08 20:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by 2much 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not too sure of the wedding but at the reception, you could get a "in memory of" candle and light it specifically for him. You can find a In Memory vase at invitationsbydawn.com, you might have to search for it a bit on there. but i am also doing this at my wedding for my aunt who i was extrememly close too and died @ 21. Its a good way for them to be remembered on your special day!
Congrats!!
2007-02-08 20:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are being married in a church and there will be prayers, include a prayer for family and friends who have passed on and are not able to be present (then say, "especially we think of ------").
2007-02-08 22:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the preacher asks who gives this bride to this groom your brother should say in honor of the bride and my father (state your fathers name) I do and when You have your pictures taken be sure to have one taken with your fathers picture being held by your brother then your mom make sure it will be big enough to show in detail when the picture is taken
2007-02-08 20:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he will be in your heart. The proper place to mention him is when you give your thank you talk at the reception.
2007-02-08 23:13:23 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋