If your fiance asked you ahead of time how many carats you wanted and the type of ring, how would you respond?

Question

My fiance wanted me to give him input on the type of ring I wanted and the size of the diamond last year. What would you have said?

Answer 1

My husband proposed without a ring and told me he knew enough about women to not buy them jewelry without their input. Esspecially true for jewelry that you'll be wearing for the rest of your life, presumably! We went to pick out both of my rings at the jewelry store together, and we decided on a budget of how much to spend on them before we got into the store.

I think that it's terrible to finance several thousands of dollars for the rings, the last thing you need in a new marriage is a bunch of debt right away unless it's a mortgage.

Be honest with him about what would not be acceptable. Let him know whether you'd prefer yellow or white gold, three stone or solitaire, etc. Sometimes there are certain circumstances in your life that'll dictate jewelry choices. A friend of mine married a Marine and she got him a super strong metal for his band. My former boss picked out her rings too, she got the stone inlaid in the band rather than above the band, so the diamond and the band were flush with each other, because she was afraid to poke herself. Think about things like that.

Personally, I wanted rings that interlocked with each other, which I did mention to my husband before he officially proposed, but I'm very thankful he let me pick out what I wanted specifically.

Anyhow, when we went to the jeweler with our dollar amount, he told us that marquis cut diamonds have more surface area per carat than rounds, and it's true the stone looks bigger. We didn't have to pay an unreasonable amount of money to get something that looked great.

Answer 2

I've dated enough guys that I thought would become fiances that I've had a chance to think about this a little. For me, when it comes right down to it, I don't really care what size carat it is but rather what kind of cut it isn't. My mom had a very plain 1/3 carat solitaire and, although it was very nice, I personally didn't like it. If I am ever asked to give input on what my ring would look like, I would show them my mother's ring and say "Whatever you choose is fine - I just don't want it to look like this." Besides, my dad decided that my sister will inherit my mom's ring and I really don't want my ring to look like one my sister has - even if it isn't her engagement ring.

Answer 3

I wouldn't have given him an answer. I think the sentiment is more important than the ring. If he pushed, I might have shown him styles that I like, but I would not have given him a specific carat size, especially since the quality of a diamond means much more than the size of it.

Answer 4

I would say "Darling, I do not need diamonds, all I need is your love"

My fiance also wanted me to have an input into my ring, and I showed him what my favourite stones were (opals) and the style that I preferred (like an eternity ring) and he took it from there. I have never liked diamonds and like them even less now that I know about the huge slave trade behind diamond mining.

Answer 5

I'd say only a carat...a big part of selecting a diamond ring is not the size, but rather the quality, clarity, and cut of the diamond. If you ask for a big diamond, but he only has a certain budget, you may end up with a lower quality diamond overall. Good luck

Answer 6

My fiance insisted on proposing with a ring, so we went ring shopping together. I thought I knew what I wanted, but when I tried rings on at the jeweler's, I saw that the styles I like in magazines don't actually look flattering on my hand. We ended up having our jeweler custom design a ring for us using elements we liked from other rings. I smile every time I look down at my hand. :o)

Answer 7

I went "looking" with my guy just so he could see the style I liked. However, the buying of the ring was up to him - and he chose really well. It's all up to the guy's budget - and us knowing the ring is totally symbolic. Size of the diamond is totally irrelevant.

Answer 8

a big fat 6 to10ct tanzanite with big vs diamonds on the side.....preferably, round stone,s they cost more. Then ,if the marriage doesn't work out, you have a nice ring to wear anytime, that only goes up in value very fast.It,s a good investment. The ring will last longer than the marriage. However, I do wish you the best. Maybe you"ll have better luck than most people.

Answer 9

Well, he didn't ask me what size/carat I wanted, but if he would have I would have told him "something nice and small to fit my hand that doesn't cost an arm and a leg"

Answer 10

I would avoid telling him what carat. I would tell him the cut and the color of the band.

I told my boyfriend that anything he gives me, I want him to choose, because him picking out something that he thinks I'll love would mean so much more to me.