we just had a baby together. He tells me he loves me and only wants to be with me but right before i had my baby, I found out that he was married and that she had just had a baby by him also. I never would have guessed that he would have done something like this to me! I have hung around all his friends and family and nobody ever told me that he had gotten married!!!So I left him and filed for child support but now shes (his so called wife) is calling me and playing on my phone, sitting outside my house and even tried to attact my sister...now I have left this guy alone and changed my cell number but should I still let him see our child who hes now saying isnt his!?? I want to have my brother go and kick his a$$ and hers but am I crazy to still have feelings for this guy? I dont know what to do...but I have been staying away from him....What should I do?????Please Help!!!!!
2007-02-08 19:30:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Although it is difficult, you need to push your emotions aside completely for a moment. Ask yourself this: After all the lies and cheating, DO YOU REALLY want to spend the rest of your life chained to a man who you cannot trust? There could be a wonderful man out there who will treat you like a goddess, but you will never meet him while you are pining over this jerk. Get a DNA test, sue the jackass for child support and move on with your life. Neither you nor your child should suffer the stress and aggravation this man will bring into your lives. And double-shame on his family for keeping that dreadful secret! Who would want them as in-laws! Move on sistah!
2007-02-08 19:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by NYTEVIOLET 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you document dates and times of any issues like calls or sitting outside your house. Do what you can to get a restraining order against the wife.
Once you have that, it'll be relatively easy to request that visits from the dad to your baby to be supervised by you or by a social worker. If he's on the baby's birth certificate, it may be likely you can force him to pay the cost of a DNA test if he disputes the paternity. In most cases, being told they have to pay it may make them change their minds about having the test in the first place, but if a DNA test is what it takes (and it doesn't cost you money) to make him pay support, then have him do it.
Forget about your feelings for him, he doesn't deserve that. Forget about having someone fight him, that'll just switch your role from the victim to the aggressor, which would not be in your favor. At this point, concentrate on your baby and your safety.
2007-02-09 03:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well technically you had a baby with her husband so she has a right to act a fool. She's upset and wants to make sure you're not messing with her man anymore. And she doesn't want to leave him so you're her target. Anyway, you can't deny him his child but you can deny him you. I'm sorry that you've wasted 8 years on that jerk..but just don't let him waste another second of your time.
2007-02-09 03:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by virgogirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a good lawyer, keep yourself away from him, let the lawyer talk to him and fight for your baby's right though you have to spend quite a lot for this. Concentrate on your baby and try to forget this guy who has shattered your life. May be your destiny has something beautiful ahead.
2007-02-09 04:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ashreya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move...file a restraining order against his wife....if he is saying the kid isnt his then he must not want to see it....enjoy your child for the blessing that they are and please move on with your life...things will get better
2007-02-09 03:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by angie_65611 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from him.......you don't have any future with him!
2007-02-09 03:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by leila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋