Do you recommend soldering an engagement ring and a wedder together?

Question

I bought my wedding ring today. My wedding ring is 18kt gold whereas my engagement ring is 9ct gold. The sales lady said its best to solder the rings together to prevent them from rubbing against each other. Does anyone recommend this or have done it? There is a little gap between the wedder and the enagement ring aswell, she also said that sodering them together would get rid of the gap as they would be flush against each other.

Answer 1

Absolutely! It reduces the chance of losing a ring, and also prevents the rings from banging together which can loosen the stones. So unless you're planning to become "unmarried" and return to the engagement stage, it's a terrific idea! LOL

Answer 2

My mom's rings have been soldered together for 40 years and she's never had a problem. You'll have to read your documentation from Kay but usually the warranty is actually on the diamonds not the band itself so I think you'd be ok taking it somewhere else but I'd call them and ask just to make sure. I didn't solder my rings and I am constantly fidgeting with them to keep them lined up. I do anticipate wearing the band by itself when I travel so that's why I kept the rings separate. I sometimes take trips to very poor parts of the world and I plan to leave the big engagement ring home.

Answer 3

Yes, soldering them together will help keep them from rubbing together. My ring is made up of 3 seperate rings with gaps in between. When I had them soldered together they ground down the outter rings just a little so they fit the center ring better. You can still tell that it's 3 rings because they're only held together on the side that faces my palm.

Be aware that soldering your rings together may change the fit slightly so you may need to have the ring resized. I found this out the hard way when my ring got stuck on my hand.

Answer 4

NO ABSOLUTELY NOT.

Dont do this. There will definitely come a time when you dont want to wear your engagement ring everyday. Probably after you have a baby will be that time (a diamond ring can cause alot of hurt to a baby by scratching and you wont want to give baths or change poopy diapers with it on) If you attach them toegther you will never be able to wear your wedding ring alone. Believe me, I have been married for over 8 years, you want your ring to stay nice, you will not want to wear it every day for the rest of your life. And if you think you will remember to take it off everytime you will need to let me just leave you with this story. My best friend took off all her rings except her wedding ring one day when she was scrubbing the toilet. The ring had never fallen off before so she wasnt worried. After she finished cleaning the toilet and flushed all the soap away she looked down and her wedding ring was not on her finger any longer. She had flushed it along with the soap. It was gone forever. She was devistated. Her husband took apart the pipes in the walls and everything, but it was gone. She was so thankful that she didnt have her diamond on as well. Do not do this, you never think anything will happen until it actually does.

Answer 5

can I ask why the sales lady sold you an 18ct wedder when you had a 9ct engagement ring .. to me it sounds like she was just trying to get more money out of you.

9ct, because it contains less Gold is better wearing and costs you less and is less expensive because it only contains nine parts to twenty-four of gold.

18ct is of course more valuable that 9ct BUT costs you more and wears away faster ( N.B wearing away as it the ring becomes thinner over time with wear).

Now if I had been the saleswoman who served you for your wedders I would NOT have directed you towards 18ct UNLESS your engagement ring was 18ct ( and vice versa if the situation was the same with 9ct)

so i guess you could solder them together to stop them rubbing but i would be a little concerned how it is going to look exactly and just how *flush* they will sit ...why is there a gap now ? because one ring is curved or there is a twist on the band .. soldering them together MAY not solve the *gap*

I am sorry but i am really unhappy with the service you recieved from this saleswoman .. to me it sounds like it was a person trying to make a good sale for HER benefit and was not looking out for the best interests of her customer. I think i would prefer to go back and get a 9ct wedder ..

also look at it from another point .. if you have children... you can hand down the wedder to one and the engagement ring to another,.. having two rings lumped together , while solving one problem, doesn't seem the best idea

I was a saleswoman in a jewellery store for nearly ten years .. and we always had the policey of looking out for our customer's best interest as they WOULD return for future sales if they were well looked after.(looking after their interests was the best way to look after our own ... high pressure and bad sales are not a good way to maintain a regular cliental.

EDIT...
AS FOR GETTING WHAT YOU PAY FOR in reference to gold jewellery ... It may seem somewhat odd to those that have never been in the trade ,But let's say you go for a fine ring made of PURE gold... no impurities ,, just mined and molded gold ... that ring will cost you a pretty penny .. BUT wear it for five days a week for five years and that ring will be bent out of shape and twisted and dinted and marked...
Now say you buy an 18ct ring , same design and style and wear it the same .. it will also be worn BUT not to the extent the 24 ct would be
9ct wears the best ,, IT IS NOT AS VALUABLE .. so really it depends on what it is you want ...

a ring that is more valuable but may need more repairs later on or a ring that is cheaper and stronger.

You need to find an honest salesperson and jewellery manufacturer to advise you ..

Answer 6

The Lady may have a point there because my engagement ring was 22ct or something like that & the wedding ring was 18 or less
I can't remember, but the point here is my engagement ring wore so thin it just about snapped lol & it wore the white gold on it away as well
but ask another jeweller to be real sure

Answer 7

What a load of nonsense! I have never heard of such a thing - and what's wrong with a gap between the two rings? After all they were bought separately and signify two different events in your life. And from the aesthetic point of view, I can't imagine anything uglier or clumsy than a stiff cluster of gold on your finger.

I suggest you just remove your rings whenever you work with your hands - cooking, washing, gardening, etc. etc. - a whole lot safer, more practical and hygienic. Also, whenever you'll want to bathe your babies... you won't want to scratch them, or hurt them in any way.
And as far as the gold wearing down... if it is good quality jewellery to start with, it wouldn't really matter. You pay for what you get.

P.S. In my experience, having any finished jewellery worked on (i.e. soldering) cannot be properly executed if there is already a stone (diamond) mounted on it. The diamond would have to removed from the ring and then reset, otherwise the heat from the soldering would compromise the setting.

Answer 8

I know some people do this, but I didn't want it done. I wanted to be able to wear my wedding ring alone sometimes - and I do. My sister got her soldered, and regrets it. The gap doesn't really matter. My rings are 14k and after almost 18 years, the rubbing - if any- hasn't done anything.

Answer 9

Yes, I recommend it, after the wedding of course. It can always be undone later, too, if you change your mind for some reason. But both rings being separate (like mine are now), slide around in opposite directions. I'm going to get them soldered.

Answer 10

yes by all means join them 2 friends have done it and it looks real good and the saleslady is right it will stop the rings from turning so the diamong on the engagement ring is always facing up