i been ging out with my b/f for just over 6 months, and he says he loves me! i'm head over heels for him! we do not get the opertunity to see each other much, cause we have a long distance relationship, we talk lots via phone & net! a while back i gave my innocence to him, and i have people telling me that was unwise cause now all he gonna want from me is sex. i wanna know how to know if he really loves me or just wants me for the occasional bout of sex!
2007-02-08 19:00:05 · 19 answers · asked by Almost Happy Housewife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he does ask me about my day and whats going on in my life!
sometimes we chat about things like that and other times we do talk about sex! and sometimes the conversations are a mixture of the 2 !
2007-02-08 19:15:06 · update #1
Sex has nothing to do with this. The way you know, is if he really misses you, and when you do see each other, his reaction.
A guy that's in love (and honest), will make it very apparent.
f you have to question this, then it's probably not happening for you. Guys actaully fall in love much more intense than girls, and we tend to keep that long after the relationship might be over.
This whole BS about all guys being players and looking to get laid is ridiculous. Yeah, there are some of them out there, but if the girls can't spot this within a date or two, then it's not helping us genuine guys.
2007-02-08 19:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a long distance relationship Is definitely a good way to test If someone really loves you, because It takes a little extra work than a regular relationship. If he Is willing to take the time to be creative and thoughtful, then there Is a good sign. Just try holding It back for a while, but don't tell him why. If he doesn't respect your decision, and gets all pissed off at you, and stops talking to you then there Is a bad sign. If this happens, don't call him. Let him come to you, and continue to withhold sex and see If It happens again. If he does the same thing then he prolly doesn't really love you. I was In a long distance relationship that just ended a couple of days ago, and what I just explained Is exactly what happened. It made me realise that I didn't really love my gf, and was just comfortable, and I didn't respect her decision to not have sex. She stopped talking to me for a while, and It made me think.
Yet when I got another chance I did It again. Not respecting someone Is a fairly good indicator that you aren't In love with them. It Is more of a lust thing then. But ya, for future reference, If you want a long term relationship, I say withhold sex from the very beginning for a good while, and If the relationship still blossoms, then there Is the answer. Good Luck.
2007-02-09 03:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by mattkarkoska 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly don't question his love, 6 months its a lot of time to find out if a person loves you or not, they re lots of whores out there but he chose you, its unlikely to go just for sex, start and have confidence in him. If you really enjoy your time with him and he really makes you happy its OK. When you ll see that hes not putting much of an interest in you then go on a surprise trip to his hometown and i don't know, try and surprise him, see if hes been cheating on you, start talking to his friends. O and sex its the next level in a relationship, better give your innocence to a person you love than get drunk and make a stupidity
2007-02-09 03:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by coro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, his little head rules his body. Almost every hetero guy thinks about sex 2 or 3 times a minute and every time he sees a pretty girl like you or me, he fantasizes about taking her innocence. Its constantly on the man's brain, even when they're asleep. Add long distance to that and his eye will eventually wander to satisfy his daily craving.
2007-02-09 03:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by Dreyah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking us that question, you obviously are having some doubts. All men love sex, but so do women. Leave the sex out of the issue. It's irrelevant. The question you really want to know is if he loves you. But you don't give enough information for us to be able to discern that. Is he romantic with you? Does he say he loves you? Does he treat you with respect? Would he give up his life for you? Is he making plans with you for the future? If you would say yes to all of these, he MAY be in love with you. Only your heart really knows the answer to this. Don't be listening to friends. Half the time they are trying to steal your bf anyway. Your relatives want only perfection for you, which doesn't exist.
2007-02-09 03:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that the long distance is working says he really cares about you. If he shows interest in you and in your life then he cares about you. If he is happy to see you when you do meet up-he cares. If however all he talks pf is sex and acts kinda bored with you then all he wants from you is sex.
2007-02-09 03:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You question does not make sense, because nether of the issue you are talking about are related. I bet your boyfriend cares about you and I also bet he is using you. Men use females and females use males that is how the world works. That being said maybe you moved to fast with that guy, considering he lives so far away.
2007-02-09 03:42:30 · answer #7 · answered by Bud#21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want to raise a family with him and you want him to be the father of your kids (i assume you feel this way because otherwise why would you have sex with him right?) if he is responding positively to it, then he values you more than just a sex partner. but if he brushes it off, then you'll know he's not going to be up for the responsibility. and if this is the case, dont ever give yourself to him because if something happens to you, he's not going to answer for that.
2007-02-09 04:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by J.P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Wait. If he wants to have sex after only 6 months, tell him you aren't ready. A gentleman never pushes the offer of sex on a lady.
2007-02-09 03:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by Desert Rose 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you cant always listen to what people have to say about your relationship and only you know if it feels right if your true to yourself. but if he calls you alot and always seems intrested in you.. your day.. whats going on in your life then hes really likes you. but if all he talks about is sex.. and things of that nature.. then he probably just wants sex. but thats not always the case
2007-02-09 03:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by KimsMommy18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋