how long should i wait?

Question

it is obvious that he enjoys my company every time we go out together. he makes long eye contact unabashedly and once i caught his stare lingering on my lips. he's taken to protect me when we went away on business trips. he does not take advantage of me and cautions me not to be "naughty". he remembers what i said and is very inquisitive about any potential male friends around me. BUT, he doesn't admit to flirting with me. he doesn't admit that he likes me. and he told me not to associate being naughty with him. SO, that leaves me as a confused girl. when asked, he becomes vague with answers. HOW LONG should i wait for him to say the things i have been wanting him to say? will that day ever come?

Answer 1

This is a tough one. Maybe he is happier being friends and not wanting to have anymore pressure than that. You could wait and see what happens but why should you? If he is not admitting to flirting and being a bit secretive about it all then maybe he's not the one. Maybe he just wants to flirt and then dismiss things. Try not to read too much into it just in case you are being led up the garden path here. Sorry for sounding so harsh but it is possible and you could get hurt here.

Time will tell but there's not reason why you should wait. Put your cards on the table and tell him once and for all. Say how you feel and if he doesn't give you a straight answer then stay friends but make it clear that there will nothing else and no more flirting. Sounds like he may just enjoy the attention but not want the commitment.

Be careful.

Answer 2

You need to make the first move. He's being nice and polite. He doesn't want you to view him as a pervert or "just another guy" trying to get in your pants. He's trying to earn your trust and show you his good character. He's just not going to jump into casanova mode on you and make a move. You need to at least break the ice for him and ask him out on a date. You may even have to lightly seduce him before he make the first move, as you know men seduce easily he won't last long. Sounds like he's cautious and proper, not necessarily bad things. Give him a little nudge and things should work out fine. Good luck.
**After reading your question over I'd like you to ask him about his past relationships. Just get a feel for his past and his opinions on women. Make sure he's not an "all women are whores" type. I'm just a little thrown by his "you don't be naughty and don't associate naughtiness with me" stuff. A little wierd.

Answer 3

It sounds like he is shy. Just ask him to go out with you on lots of dates.....pub, restaurant, walk in the park etc etc. He will come to realise that you like him and his company. Be 'good' and he will probably come around. If you still feel that, after a few dates, you have not made any progress, then tell him that you like him and that you like the idea of having a relationship with him.
Get to know him first. Sometimes when we are involved in 'the chase' we tend to romanticise our 'love quest.'
See how things work out for a little bit longer....be patient!
All the best! :o)

Answer 4

He will eventually come around to it, but like you rightly asked the question is when? How long? You could fast forward it though by making him jealous. Competition usually gingers men. Let him think that someone else is really showing interest and you might swing that way. He will pull the rabbit out his heart( hat?) then.

Answer 5

First of all is he married? because if he is, you better forget it.

Secondly , I hope you are not one of those young women who go through life saying " All the men I find attractive turn out to be gay". ....?

Okay so things are not moving fast enough for you. In the UK I'd say this is perfectly normal, whereas if you are an American lady it's perfectly acceptable to force the issue a bit more!!!

He sounds like a nice guy. Be patient.

Answer 6

Did it ever occur to you that he may be waiting for you?

Option A: he is an experienced player...don't get your heart involved, but get a good orgasm out of it (with condoms, of course)

Option B: he likes you and is shy...this may be the more likely option which sounds like the better-for-you option. In this case, just kiss the boy....he's probably waiting for it.

Option C: just wait for him...dunno what might happen in this situation...sounds like both parties might get too shy and move on. You'd never know what could've happened.

Answer 7

many guy have this big problem. specially good guys. they are shy, unable to tell someone what they feel by fear of loosing her.

but in that case if u like his... gime him some more impression that you have interest for him (not too much) the closer he gets plays the innocent, (I personally i dont really like easy girls. for me easy come, easy go) so try to tease him a lot, believe ne he;ll fall for you... good luck

Answer 8

"Waiting" would not work in your favor. Your attitude should be as if you have moved on. It will be easier for him to go after you if you are not there waiting and available. I guess it's kind of a Buddhist philosophy, but you are going to have to get rid of that desire in order to get what you are looking for.

Answer 9

i know its hard to face up to someone and tell them how you feel when your unsure of their feelings, but i reckon you'll just end up letting this guy rule your life if you dont get it all out in the open yourself.... force him out of giving you vague answers, Its not fair that hes doing it, he must be worth it to get this confused about, so go for it!!!! Good Luck

Answer 10

Why dont you find quiet time and talk to him, tell him you like him and whats on your mind? at leased you will know and maybe it will clear things up for him :o)