My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost six years and I have never recieved flowers from him. After several subtle hints went unoticed, I asked if I could have flowers for Valentine's day. He made a big deal about it, pointing out how much of a pushup it would be and continued to ask me each day if he still had to get me flowers.
I asked if we were going anywhere for V-day yesterday and he sighed and said "Well...I guess if you really want to..." I got really upset and started crying and he ignored me. He showed me the recipet for the flowers later but I don't even want them anymore because they have no sincere meaning.
It not about flowers now...I'm upset because he hurt my feelings and he won't even acknowledge he's done anything wrong...am I getting too upset over nothing?
2007-02-08 18:35:04 · 32 answers · asked by seiya_odango 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems to me that you are being incredibly unreasonable. Why must you ask him repeatedly about such things? Maybe he had plans for you and you ruined them by asking, you need to grow up and realize that relationships aren't about presents, it's more the thought that counts, not validation through gifts.
2007-02-08 18:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sherlock H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you did, you may not realize it, but you were wrong when you ask him because it sounded more like an assumption that he hadn't, and that this is his friendly reminder to plan something or else. Also you've dictated (I'm sure that's how he see's it)how he should display his love for you over and over. I'm a woman too and realized its not fair to put my ridiculous notions on him.(my husband) The guys who gave me the most flowers were the liars and the cheats. Flowers don't mean a thing- society just tries to make us think that we have to get flowers or were not loved. Believe me it means more when guys does things from the heart then when you try and force your will on them- no matter what it is. It only seems to make them rebel and drives them to feel like not doing anything. Worry less about what you think he should do and what he does do instead. When you put to much pressure on a guy their too afraid of doing the wrong thing they'd rather do nothing because they think you'll get mad either way so why put in effort just to get yelled at. So if he's a good guy outside of this don't sweat it- just be thankful to have a guy who loves you!
2007-02-08 18:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by firecracker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BS on the "i do no longer have fun Valentine's Day" answer. in case you have been a be certain (and Christian) might you assert on your infant, "Sorry, i do no longer have fun Christmas." whether you like it or no longer, Valentine's Day is on the calendar and till the two human beings mutually agree that the holiday is incomprehensible, then you definately are predicted to have fun it the comparable way the youngsters might assume you to have fun Christmas. i think of, if there became no present, and no communique then you definately are completely justified to flow away him. That exhibits a loss of taking good care of your emotions, and additionally that loss of communique isn't good whilst perhaps there could be greater extreme themes. certainly, the greater i think of roughly it.... unload him.
2016-12-17 05:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, ur right to be upset, he must be a retard and u need to actually teach him step by step what he shld do. How old is he btw?? And what u said is true, gifts are from the heart. But let's look at it overall cos to me Valentine's Day is just another day, nothing special cos everyday with my partner is a special day. How does he treat u, i mean normally...since u can be with him for almost 6 years am sure he ain't that bad isn't it? So, don't use VD as an excuse to be upset. Anyways, u did say what u wanted and at least he cld do is to get something nice for u. Am sure he needs to grow up someday...man, he's really stupid to show the receipt after getting the flower for u! lol!
2007-02-08 18:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by DooGie 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This guy doesn't seem to care about making you happy. If he treats you like this often then you're a fool for staying with him. If he's allergic to flowers or was attacked by a rosebush when he was a child and has anxiety attacks when he's around flowers then forgive him. This should be a major red flag about the depth of your relationship. Do some soul searching and be honest with yourself. I hope things work out for the best.
2007-02-08 18:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yet, another reason to hate this stupid holiday. As if this one wasn't bad enough they had to add Sweetest Day in October. Just another day for women to be disappointed. This holiday is so unfair to both men and women alike. Men feel obligated to get something for their lady where there is no chance for the element of surprise and women feel pressured that they're obligated to receive something in order to feel they're loved. My man gets me flowers on ordinary "out of the blue" days to surprise me every once in a while. I hate feeling like we are obligated to celebrate our love for each other on the same day as everyone else. I don't think you are being unreasonable but I don't think he's being mean either because I can kind of see where you are both coming from. He was probably trying to surprise you by pretending he wasn't going to do anything for you but of course that's impossible to do when it's expected. This holiday is overated hon. I'm sure he loves you more than he'll ever be able to express to you and that no amount of flowers on a decided holiday would ever compare to it.
2007-02-08 18:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by Eulalia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess I could see how flowers could be quite intimidating for a guy. All those colors, and choices, and thorns. Ahhhh! Um...maybe he has a phobia. Who knows? Just wait until after Valentine's Day to make it an issue. For all you know he's leading you to think nothing special will happen when in fact he has a whole day planned. If the fifteenth roles around and you still have nothing, let him have it.
2007-02-08 18:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by David K 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No Not at all... but have u ever tried to give him something he wants during these 6 years ? well on the other hand he is acting so wired.. maybe he is going to make a big surprise for u ... honey don't let these things spoil that day for u also try to make a memorable valentine's day and make him to never forget it.. and u will see how he change !
2007-02-08 19:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by persian_ladyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not. You're a girl/lady who wants to feel special, be treated special specially by her boyfriend. And, if he can't do that small thing to you, how can he do great things for you?
These kind of men are disasters, they won't do you any good. Imagine, having to ask you what to do for valentine's day, and when you tell him, he will not do it because he says he will be a pushover if he do that. What an a**hole.
My advice to you, get out of that relationship as fast as you can, break up with him before it's too late. And it's not about the valentine's day crap, it's about how he treats you.
2007-02-08 18:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by jocjac 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After 6yrs and such resistance to Valentine's Day, I'd straight ask him "what gives?", and regardless of his personal feelings for the holiday (some people hate it) he should still go to some length to make his girl feel special on that day. How many times do you bend over backwards for him even on days when you're just not feeling it?
2007-02-08 18:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by SloBoMo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋