2007-02-08 18:09:53 · 26 answers · asked by cris 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I asked that question a few times last month when I ex gf and I broke up. It was so sore. The pain is crazy I know. The thing is that it is meant to be sore and hurt alot because of how intense it is. You give away your heart, then it is given back to you and you really Don't know what to do with it. Fortunately for you, you still have a heart and CAn give it away again. But you cant do that when you are still hurting. You cant give a broken heart to another person because it is not fixed. First things first, You will go through pain like this. For awhile still. But don't worry time slowly puts it to bed. Learn from this pain experience, even though I know you don't want to. But you must, in order to grow as a person and develop into a mature minded individual. So when the next relationship comes around you WILL know exactly how to handle a person. There is Always someone better in this world. Like you think your the best at whatever you do, there will Always be someone who is better. Do the activities you LOVE to do and trust me, the right person will find you because of the activities you love to do. Don't search, the right one will come in time. Don't contact the ex, because the damage done is hard to rectify. Only do that when sufficient space has been given and BOTH of you totally agree 100% to it. But sometimes it is just better to move on and experience the love pain.
2007-02-08 18:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by stephen b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing good comes easy. True 'LOVE" is very painful and thats how u know how much u love that person. It cannot be bought with money, its a natural feeling that comes from deep down within. Its a good feeling, but at the same time expect the very worse from it. Yes, you may be feeling very hurt now - its only for a while, it is momentary. It is more interesting n sweet when u're hurt by someone u love dearly and so it is part of life. But life must go on. So my dear, dont ever block ur "HEART". Some day, u're going to appreciate what is happening to u rigth now.
2007-02-08 18:57:40 · answer #2 · answered by bukai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's life. Love is an emotion, the thing that is supposed to make us human they say and emotions can make the most rational of people go mad. As with all things there is a good and bad side, I suppose we should learn to embrace all aspects of it and learn to protect ourselves from the pain.If you are feeling hurt at the moment I hope you can look back on this in the future from a different viewpoint and even laugh a little. As one door closes another opens. Good luck.
2007-02-08 18:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you spend every second loving that person so much and trying your best to please them. You give them your all and only hope you get it back in return.
But when you don't you feel like you were like a bottle of milk in the refrigerator that is just there to be used and placed back. It hurts you so much, cause you know that you give that person your best and nothing less.
But it's better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all.
As they say, Love is a thing that cannot be seen, it tickles the heart and troubles the brain.
Hope that was some help hun.
2007-02-08 23:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by Playful~Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is but a mere reflection of yourself in someone else. Look in the mirror when you are all dressed up, you want to keep appreciating yourself. Try that when you first wake up in the morning, you want to quickly change to look your best. Perhaps it is so in a relationship. Once a persons reflection of each other is clouded and not appealing, they seek mirroring in someone else. The reason it hurts is because seeing our bad side in someone else is not appealing and we know we must work towards change and that there is the conflict.
2007-02-08 18:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by friday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love looks sweet but just makes trouble/pain for me.
2007-02-08 18:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called life. But I know what you mean. With joy comes pain I guess.
The key is getting a happy balance so you get more happy and enjoyable times out of it than you do hurt and pain.
Not straight forward though.
2007-02-08 20:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's love. Real love. You don't get that hurt it you really LIKE someone, now do you? It's ok, the hurt goes away in time.
2007-02-08 18:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by daughter_helping 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you have to go through the hurt to eventually find the sweetness. In order to realize how great something is, you need to know how crappy it can be.
2007-02-08 18:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by september c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
luv is giving up a part of yourself, and allowing that part to be filled by sum1 or sumthing els...
in a way, its a balance of giving and gaining.
if luv didnt hurt....we wudnt appreciate the sweetness as much as we do =)
2007-02-08 18:21:34 · answer #10 · answered by noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋