need help i'm depressed?

Question

i have a well paying job but i still feel dependence on others ..i donno emotional or such..i don't have friends? i really depresed what do i do?

Answer 1

First before I say anything I would like to recommend two books to you for finding purpose in your life! 1. The Purpose Driven Life. by Rick Warren 2002 and 2. Your Best Life Now by Joel Osteen 2004. I believe that your feeling almost to the state of emptiness. I believe the reason you feel this way is because your heart is feeling that something is missing. I believe that something is God and Jesus! The Bible says that you were created to have a fellowship with God, and to have Him at the center of your life. Did you know God loves you and values you! "God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son Jesus, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." (John 3:16)Know apart from Jesus Christ, the Bible tells us, we are "harassed and helpless, like sheep with out a shepherd" (Matt 9:36). But God loves us, and one reason he has allowed you to have this feeling of emptiness in your heart is that He loves you and wants you to seek and have a relationship with him. No matter how hard we try or what means we use--material possessions, money, pleasure, drugs, or whatever--the emptiness is still there. The thing is that if you let your emptiness go this leads into depression! How do I know this? Because I have dealt with that empty feeling, life with no purpose or meaning and eventually depression. The three things that really turned my life around was: 1. Knowing that God and Jesus Loved me and I was valued! 2. Knowing I had people on my side at church, in my social life and in my family that cared about me! and 3. I had to get myself out of the atmosphere that I was in! When you put yourself in line with what God has for you, then you will see yourself back with a renewed joy! I would not be telling you this if I had not experienced what you feel myself! Know down inside you are looking for love and happiness but you will never find it the way you are living right now. God created you, and God loves you. His only Son, Jesus Christ, loved you so much that he gave His life on the cross so you could be saved and break free from in perfectness, sin and this empty feeling to become a child of God. When you accept Jesus Christ into your life, something wonderful and supernatural happens. God Himself comes to dwell within you! You become part of His family, and you can know the joy of His presence every day. The Bible says: "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5). As a christian I know that Church is a excellent place to meet people that might of once felt the way you do now with no purpose and they might tell you how now they live for Jesus and how they have found that purpose. Not only at church service but a lot of church's have activities like single events and small groups like bible study! Not only will you be meeting new people and developing relationships with them, you will be also be developing a relationship with God and Jesus by learning what the word of God (the Bible) has to offer you in your life, like questions like this one! Also I encourage you to take other steps to reach out to others. Are there others at work or in your neighborhood who are also feel life has no purpose? Are there others in your neighborhood or work who seem to have just a few friends? It may be not easy for you at first, but learn to be a friend to others. Is a good way to start to do something practical for someone else who has a need. The fact of the matter is you need to put yourself in a new atmosphere! I battled though depression! So, I felt like life was just one, big black, end less, tunnel that I felt so alone and that no one valued me! I later found out that I was valued! I was valued by Jesus because he gave his life on the cross for me! and in essence I was carrying my own cross and Jesus said let me carry that for a while and you put your faith in me and I will bring you hope for the future and a future partner! You know what? He did! Now am happily married to the woman of my dreams! And you to can have that person you desire and things in your life will have meaning and purpose if you believe in yourself and start having a relationship with Jesus! I will be praying for you! Right now! Pray to Jesus, tell him you don't want to have a life without a purpose anymore! You want him to come into your heart by faith! Tell him you want him and him alone to come and stay with you and bring you comfort and wisdom. In Jesus Name! Amen!

Answer 2

Well... first I think you need to determine if you're just feeling 'down in the dumps' or if you are actually depressed. There are several tests you can take online (like the one I listed below) that can help you determine this. If it turns out that you really think you are depressed, you can get meds for this that often times help the problem.

Before you go to extremes though, first I'd try fixing the problem yourself. The answer may be as simple as trying new things. Change up your daily routine a little bit. Going to different places can also help you meet different people, which may be exactly what you need right now. Also, I've found that being outside and getting lots of physical exercise can really help my mood out, even if it seems like its the last thing I want to do sometimes.
Good luck!

Answer 3

Hi Vishal,

Sorry to hear you're feeling down. If you're an Indian living in the US, but born in India, I imagine the transition has been difficult. The culture here is pretty different and I know a lot of folks who came from abroad end up feeling lonely without their family and friends around.

You might enjoy doing some social activities, like taking a ballroom dance class for beginners or joining some volunteer activities. Also, see what Indian organizations there are in your area. NETIP has locations throughout the US, for instance. You might feel a lot less lonely to meet others in the same situation as yourself.

I hope this helps,
GoodAdvice

Answer 4

That's sad. You should join a church men's group or women's group or singles group depending on your preference. You don't even have to go to church or believe in God to enjoy relationships with others through these kinds of groups. You can even take a class at your local park district. If you have felt this way for a long time, see your doctor - you could have a chemical inbalance of the brain that is easily treated with the right meds. Cheese whiz, I think most of us believe if we had that well paying job - we'd be out of problems!

Answer 5

i am not a shrink.. however i was in similar state
realising depression is the first win
new job, new place, financial problems.. this is what i did
1. took an objective attitude, jot down the need to do, like to do
2. immerse myself into physical activity, gym, exercise
3. got a friend on the net to let out
4. get some mild medication at the most
5. took up group classes, yoga etc
6. i m sure there are other things one can do

Answer 6

Hmm, I don't know. Have you tried taking up a new hobby, like perhaps bowling? Maybe you can join a league or something.

If your attempts at meeting people don't help you get over this depression then I suggest you seek out the professional help of a counselor or therapist.

Answer 7

If you feel you are really depressed why not try counseling. We all depend on someone, if not for money then for other things. Perhaps you can start a business of your own. Isn't there anyone at your work that you can hang out with?

Answer 8

Unfortunatly Depression happens to all of us now and then because of circumstances. But, if you are depressed all of the time it is most likely a chemical imbalance in your brain. And if that is the case the only way you can overcome it is by taking an anti depressant type drug.

Answer 9

try stuff like basketball baseball swimming until u find something ur googd at and that u like doing. or (and i know this is totally dumb) take a ball of yarn , tangle it and then untangle it. when ur done u willl have the best feeling in the world.

try to make a friend people at work, even if u make one thats a improvement and u'll have someone to whatever

Answer 10

Find some hobbies, or something you enjoy doing, try to find something that will give you enjoyment. Most importantly set time aside for yourself and try new things, you may even make a few friends along the way too.

Answer 11

I hate to say this,but you need to reach out for a little bit.Your friends will [e-mail] is way to reach me,though I am not the answer,I will be your friend.Dependance on others is a fact of live,but it should not be your waking life.If friends will not do,seek professional help as soon as possible.