what should I do with me girlfriend? I'm not saying she's all that bad but she never let's me be who I want to be. All the things that i used to do when i wasn't with her, she made me stop cause she didn't like it. Now, I feel that she doesnt except mr for who I really am. What should I do? Anyhting will help.
2007-02-08 17:50:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talking to her about your feelings usually helps and if it doesn't then it is time to let her go.
2007-02-08 18:00:29 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin...anyone that doesn't let you be who you are...is not the one for you. It really is that simple. She doesn't have to be all that terrible either. It's just she was critical of you to begin with, and now that you changed...she is still critical...because she is a critical person. You can't change her either. You can't make someone love you who does not. Love is not about changing people. No.
I am speaking from experience. I tried to control and change my ex-husband and made us both miserable. The truth was...I just didn't like his personality...period.
Please find someone who loves you exactly the way you are for who you really are inside and out. Believe it or not... love does not equal pain.
Be you and the right one will come along and think you are awesome!! Just as you are.
Best wishes!
2007-02-09 02:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by kallie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her; or you can stick around and go back to your old self. If she cannot handle it, she will go! She is not a girlfriend, just a girl who wants to control you. Don't let anyone stop you from being who you are! This is one of the biggest "red flags" that are ignored and a major sign of incompatibility. It isn't necessary to change for someone. There are plenty of others will accept you just like you are. Fortunately, I learned this when I was young and first started dating, and believe me, it is true.
2007-02-09 01:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by candace b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be yourself. You can change some things but you can't change who you are as a person. Ask youself this: Why is your girlfriend with you if you're not what she is looking for? It seems to me from the point of view that I have, that she doesn't like you for who you are. She is trying to change you into something else entirely. I would think that she is not the best choice for you as you can find someone who appreciates you.
2007-02-09 01:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did she want you to stop doing exactly? To quit smoking? Then I don't blame her. lol. But on a serious note, if she was trying to change you and ask you to stop doing things you love doing, like sports, then it is not good for you and your relationship in the long run. Talk to her and let her know how you feel. She sounds controlling to me. She needs to realize that she can't change you and she shouldn't have in the first place. To love someone is to love everything about them.
2007-02-09 01:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by LS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself: what are you in the relationship for? and what do you see in the future with her? are the things youre doing harming the relationship...a committed one that is? a gf/bf relationship is not hang out/get laid. maybe thats what you think it is. anyway, doesnt sound like youre committed to it. peace
2007-02-09 02:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she does not trust you. have u done something that justifies the way she is acting, if no, be honest speak to her about how your feeling and that you need to be yourself. One can compromise for a partner but change at whim just to suit their moods and patterns is just not on.
2007-02-09 01:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by dusty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have a good talk with her and say you really really miss doing the things you want to do then tell her what they are offer to have her do them with you and see what she says
2007-02-09 01:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mike H 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are who you are, if she doesn't like it, tell her to take a hike, you shouldn't put on a face for anyone, they have to accept you for who you are and accept that there are things that you like to do.
2007-02-09 01:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is she your girlfriend?
2007-02-09 02:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋