ok... so i like my best guy friend but he says he likes me but not enough to date me... whats up with that i know.. what should i do??? like i dont know... i really like him but i dont want our friendship to get ruined.. he likes one of my other really good friends and i dont wanna get like too jealous... and like lose our friendship... so what do u think i should do??????????
2007-02-08 17:23:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should probably just stay friends because you really don't want to complicate things. He could change his mind and want to date you later, but until then, just stay friends and let him do his own thing.
2007-02-08 17:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough call and we have all had to face this one. When is a friendship best kept as a friendship and when can a friendship become romantic and yet still keep the friendship ? The first thing is to see if your feelings are being reciprocated by him without you pushing it too hard. Sometimes, in our mind, we have to create some mental distance from a dilemna so we can see it clearer. You say he is a bit keen on someone else so this might be a clue that he might not be feeling about you what you are feeling about him. Be careful of triangles - somebody always gets hurt and everyone feels some regret. Right now, you have a friendship with him that you value highly. Don't risk that friendship.Remember, love is a beautiful thing but it's also a bit crazy. I think you should, at least for the present, maintain that mental distance. Keep focused but take your time.
2007-02-09 01:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by John M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh that whole " I don't want to ruin the friendship" is crap. If you are decent people, and the romance doesn't work out, you can be even better friends than before. I'm in that situation. Actually I live with my best friend, my daughter, her son, and there was something there at one time...which has grown stronger as a friendship, and closer.
But some people are mean when they break-up. Some can't date people they respect, some people can't be friends with people they have dated for whatever reason.
Me, I only date friends. If they aren't good enough to be my friend...I sure as hell am not going to go THERE with them, but that's just me.
I'm also 33 and it sounds like this is a crises for someone much younger than me.
But the key is...if he doesn't want to date you...for whatever reason...you have to respect that.
I'd be jealous if a friend I was attracted to dated a friend of mine...but I would see that as: She apparently is more attracted to my friend than she is to me. Or I would think...she just wants try everything on her plate before moving on to the dessert (me). but still...there wouldn't be anything I could do about it.
2007-02-09 01:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by moabmusher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already told you he isn't interested in dating you, so if you want to keep your friendship with him, then you are going to have to accept that . . . . . at least for now. Things may change for you both in the future, but I wouldn't waste time waiting to see if he will ever become interested. Focus really hard on your friendship and not over relationships he may have with your friends. Jealousy will ruin the friendship.
2007-02-09 01:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holy hell! the same thing to me except im the guy and well were not really best friends but we could be best friends i just know it i mean im still in school and we talked for like 2 hours non-stop in a class i mean we clicked instantly ever since ive known her. i just dont know what to do know since i barely see her anymore. i think i should just move on but i cant she's so beautiful.
2007-02-09 01:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a similar situation, and unfortunately, you have to just stand back and not bum rush the guy. If it is really meant to be then you will be together in the future. Maybe he will date your friend and realize it was a big mistake and then date you!
2007-02-09 01:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isnt much u can do except staying his friend....coz if u do sumthing else u ,might lose his friendship and a dont think u want to lose him as a friend...i wudnt take the risk if i were u.
2007-02-09 04:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by tinkabel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advice you to let him go with u friend. Then if he still cares about u, and u the same, then if is ment to be, is going to be. Have you hear about.....*if something is yours..let it go. If it goes back to you, is yours, if not, it never was.* I can't advice u in how not to get jelous, i think u will, maybe that's the price you'll need to pay, but maybe it deserves it. Give it a try, let him go. and wait.
2007-02-09 01:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by elizaabigail 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient, wait and watch how things develop. Don't appear too pushy or it may be a turnoff for the boy. Appear elusive and distant and mysterious, and the boy will pursue u, the more elusive and mysterious and sophisticated u are, the more he will dance to your tune.
2007-02-09 01:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hun...iv bin inda same position =(! if you care 4 him enough (n i kno u do)... u hav to respect his feelings. keep being his best friend...it'l be hard in the beginning, damn painful infact, esp if he likes a gud friend of yours...but u will survive, coz a friend as gud as him is worth dat right =) ? ul fall 4 sum1 els soon enuff, n move on to better things...dont give up hope =)
2007-02-09 01:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by noodles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋