I am shocked all the time I thought my bf didnt want to leave home and out of nowhere he says he wants us to get a place. But the problem is I dont think I will be able to take care of myself knowing how much I would really love to( I dont have a job at the moment). I just feel like my life aint going anywhere and now I realize I can't do anything and now he wants us to get a place. I dont know what to do (I try to get any job but noone will hire me, I have no exp- and I am not using that as excuse. I am trying to get into some program since I cant get a job). It sounds like music to my ears but it sounds impossible to me ( easier said then done).
I also feel that if I wanted to get my own place that I would be alone because I turn from people quickly, and I feel my feelings turning from him. When I am with him I sometimes feel nothing, like empty inside. Who am I kidding my life is empty- like nothing to live for right now, but what do you think I shuld do?????
2007-02-08 17:08:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to move out as much as the next person maybe even more, but everything seem like a blurr, like imagination. I just always planned I would move out and be independant but Its not obvious that I cant make it. I cant get no good job but these lossy minimum wage jobs. Can you please help me? What should I do?
Serious replies, thank you
2007-02-08 17:10:46 · update #1
P.S my life is empty. I just cant seem to fill my life with laughter.I have no friends when it comes down to the end of the day and its sad. All my friends stay either at work (when I was working) or school.never close and i am shy so how am I to make friends. I dont like clubs and parties, I am an at home kind of person.
2007-02-08 17:29:42 · update #2
Don't do it. You are not ready for it and if he has to end up supporting you, there will soon be bitterness. You said it yourself your feelings change all the time. It will not be worth hurting him over. Do some growing up and figure out what you really want in life, then go from there.
2007-02-08 17:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, I think you are depressed. If that's true then the last thing you want to do is make a life changing decision, like moving in with your boyfriend. Once you become a couple like that, your focus will change from yourself to you'n'him.
If you are new to the workforce then I recommend that you take one of those menial low income jobs so that you have some work experience to put on a resume, & build your life on that.
You will start to feel better about yourself once you are making a living no matter how slow a start it may be.
Moving out just to become his dependant will probably not turn out to be a very fulfilling experience for you.
Stay focused on yourself, & never give up. You are worth the effort. OK?
2007-02-09 01:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you are living now, but one thing is for certain: you are not ready to move out, pay rent, buy food and take care of the multiple expenses regarding independent residence.
As for the fact that you feel empty inside, well, maybe because you feel unfulfilled and overwhelmed.
Do not rush into anything, with anyone, make the right decision based on what you really want and need!
2007-02-09 01:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First from what it sounds like. You are very young, and not ready for this type of commitment. Talk to him about your concerns, and his, and how you both plan on providing for yourselves. You both live with your parents? is that right?
You sound like you may have something else going on as well, maybe a depression? How long have you felt that way? Maybe you should see a therapist or counselor to help you get in touch with youself, in regards to feeling empty.
I would definately wait to move until you both have stable jobs, and a bit of money saved.
Whatever you choose though, good luck!
2007-02-09 01:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by joulesofaffection 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think about your relationship with your boyfriend. Seriously. Evaluate it. If you no longer feel anything for him, it's time to move on. It seems like you have a lot of issues going on in your own life, don't you think you ought to focus on your own stuff first?
Tell him no, you don't want a place, because you'll find yourself not being able to handle it and then you'll have a financial mess on your hands.
On the other hand, if he wants to get a place and he knows you don't have a job, if he puts ONLY his name on the lease and you move there with him, then it couldn't be said that he wasn't warned.
But you really ought to talk to him about it. And don't be afraid of what you feel. Your gut instinct will help you out the best.
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2007-02-09 01:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by ♠Gotham♠ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shayla...
Maybe you should just follow your heart.
Well, I know it sounds "like, duh.", but got some questions fo ya.
1. You sure bout this? Is it safe to live alone ONLY with your BF?
2. Can you handle it? Just like you said; you dont think u'll be able to handle urself. Right?
3. Do your parents know? Tell them and ask for advice.
4. Do you WANT to? No, this isnt the Franz Ferdinand's theme song, it's the most important question.
There's my advice, hope this helps u make up your mind... ^^
GOD BLESS YOU!!
PS: Life is NOT empty. Fill it up with laughter and other good things. You'll realize later that it's WORTH living. Ok? ^^
2007-02-09 01:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by [KoNoha_KuNoicHi] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can still afford to live on your own while at a minumum wage job and have moeny left over for fun stuff. Go get a job. YOur not going to go anywhere by sitting at home in your moms basement for the rest of your life are you? Or you could go to school, and get a student loan and actually do something with your liffe.
2007-02-09 01:15:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like you are depressed(not trying to put you down or anything) but i think you need to talk to someone about how you are feeling. I mean if you don't feel like there is anything to live for right now, doesn't sound good. If i were you i would wait until you get a job before you move out, that way you are paying your fair share.
2007-02-09 01:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT!!!!! untill you can support yourself get a job and your life "ain't" gonna go anywhere untill you get some grammar lessons lazy get out there and find a McDonalds or anywhere. the reason I'm saying this is because what if you guys break up and he kicks you out huh? what will you do then? I know I'm being kinda harsh but I hate it when adults or semi- adults can't support themselves or use proper grammar
2007-02-09 01:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not 100% sure you want to move in with him, then don't. The minimum wage jobs start to give you some experience and if you work hard and are not lazy and spoiled you might get promoted.
2007-02-09 01:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by bestbet77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋