This is an odd question.. but sometimes being around my mother for so long gets on my nerves... anyways, she wants me and my husband to build a house within the 40 acres of land they own.. and as much as I would like to take the land.. i'm not so sure I could stand living next to my mother having her prying into my life 24/7. Am I wrong to feel this way??
2007-02-08 17:04:25 · 12 answers · asked by an1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Absolutely not. With some people, it's just easier to get along with them if there's a bit of distance. Right now, I'm three hours from my family, and I love it. I'm able to visit once in a while, but being further away is much nicer. We don't fight as much, and when we do see each other, we get along better. Live wherever you think you would be happiest.
2007-02-08 17:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by consumingfire783 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong to feel the way you do. You need your own space to live and grow with your husband to start a family and your own lives together.
Perhaps have your mom come over once a week to have tea or coffee with you, to keep up with events and things, you don't have to involve every little detail of your life with her.
Perhaps invite her for lunch sometimes and dinner once in awhile.
Your mom may want you living there beside her, but ultimately it should be up to you and your husband where you want to live.
All of you are adults here. Set some boundaries with your mom. Tell her what bothers you the most, there are some conversations that should be kept private, that you and your husband share intimately.
2007-02-08 17:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother will always have the love and support for you. In her life you are that special girl she cherish,,,and fear! She is aware of the interferences into your life, but like most parents she fears that you'll become part of the statistic of crime. She doesn't want the fatal phone call from the hospital or even the police, and worst the Mogul. There is no way you can guarantee that you're big girl and you can protect yourself, sadly you always can't. If anything happen to you, especially fatal, it will tear her heart apart.
Find a comfortable distance in which you and your husband can live, and hopefully acceptable to your mom. Let her heart rest, contact her to let her know that you're ok, and spend moments with her will your nerves are settle.
Let me share with you a secret...You mom have plan for you to bury her, not the other way around. God Bless.
2007-02-08 17:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all. my in laws live in the next town over and we bought their old house. the girlfriend and i get a drive by almost daily. that's what we call it when they have to see what's new and go by the house! the sister in law moved to kansas and she thinks that that is just far enough away. the brother in law lives in new hampshire and touches base about once a month. the m-i-l is a pushy sort who has to be right because she is a control freak. if things don't go the way she wants them to, her world falls apart. if this reply is just a bit confusing with the in law thing, the girlfriend and i have been together for 18 years. that ought to explain things a little more clearly. learn to be like a duck and just let the 'water' run off your back, do what is best for you, good luck.
2007-02-08 17:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by car dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is wrong to feel that way...but is your mom the type to just "stop by" without calling. I live about 8 minutes away from mine but it is a blessing, since she helps me take care of both my children. Luckily, she is not the type to stop by without a phone call. If she is that type to pry you may want to explain to her that you need your privacy. My sister has a similar situation and she made it very clear to her in-laws that they must call first. If you know for a fact that she is going to get too involved in your life, I would move further away
2007-02-08 17:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by Maria C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no to tell you the truth is i live with my mom husband and 11 monyh old daughter in an 2 bedroom appartment when my mom likes to get in all my business and it kinds gets on my nerves but i have no choice my mom has no where to go cause we live in a state and town where we have no family but each other so its hard but yeah i see what you are saying i dont think you want to live that close sorry for being forward and listen to some one who knows how it is i live in the same house as my mom and its really small.
2007-02-08 17:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by rebecca a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. it's time for you to go out and live your own life with your husband and not having your family interfere. That's why I live 2 hours away from my parents. She is just trying to find another way to control you life. You are here baby and she wants to do everything for you. Don't let her. Yes, it may be a great offer, but is it worth her dictating your life?
2007-02-08 17:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by keeperofpuppies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,It is not wrong to feel the way you feel. Everybody needs there space,even from there parents.
Distance can sometimes help a relationship. Living close to one another can only increase your situation , and put a lot of strain on your marriage.
2007-02-08 18:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by a m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some relationships flourish at a distance, and yours and your mothers appears to be one of them. If you think you could not live so close to her, you are probably right. Getting free land might not be worth the price you'd pay...
2007-02-08 17:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not wrong to feel that way. Everyone needs privacy. I can't stand living in the same house as my Mom. Don't worry it's not wrong to feel the way you do.
2007-02-09 03:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by tigerlily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋