Are you still mourning the loss of a loved one or friend?

Question

Even years later? My Grandma has been gone since June 4, 2003 and I got to see her about an hour after she passed away and she looked like she was just sleeping in her bed. I guess that's why I don't have closure. She just did not look gone. I miss her badly and I love her and I know she would be proud of me and my 2 little kids. I am sad that I don't get to see her in person but I feel like she never really left me. I guess I never got that kind of closure. I have her picture still in the frame. My mother says I need to just "get over" my Grandma, but she doesn't show emotions outwardly like I do. My mother's reaction to the way I grieve is, "Why are you still sad about this you need to get over it." Mind you, I get on with my life just fine I just have moments when I really miss her and wish I had her to hug.

Answer 1

my best friend and cousin died in 2001 and I still miss them like crazy. you never stop grieving it just gets easier to deal with

Answer 2

My mother died in 1994 and I think of her every single day. Grieving is an intensely personal journey for each of us. It sounds like you were very close to your grandmother and that she continues to mean a lot to you. You miss her because she brought something to your life that filled a gap. Although there's no particular time table to "stop mourning", if you find that you are feeling depressed most of the time, have lost interest in normal things, want to sleep lots, have gained or lost more than 10 pounds in a month, then you might also be suffering from a Clinical Depression and should seek professional help. If not, then know that time does help us move on. Your grandmother would be proud of the way you are conducting your life without her there to be in it. Live your life to your fullest, my dear.

Answer 3

To have those moments is not a bad thing! You miss her and there is nothing wrong with that and when you think about her often you are just missing her and that is normal when you love someone that much ! It's been over 10 yrs sense i lost my daughter who was on 16 for a very short few days ! and i still miss her so much and thnk of her often, i too have no closeure! Sense i don't know why she died, she was considered healthy by her doctors and all ! but she died suddenly and had so much to live for !!! No cause of death is known ! So i know it may be different with me losing a child and you a grandmother but the love is still real love and missing them is still real !!! So when you can i hope you can go visit her grave and talk too her and maybe take some flowers to her that seems to help sometimes!! just to talk to them there and let them know you still think of them and love them!! Keep her picture were ever you like , it;s good youhaven't for got her !!! tell your kids about her and show them her pictures too !! Thats how you keep her Memory Alive !!! You don't forget her !!! and your kids will know her through you !! God bless you and keep you and your grandmother he has !! just remenber that !!

Answer 4

I'm very sorry for your loss. You don't have to get over anything. Your heart is dealing with your loss the best you can. My mom died in my arms 1 1/2 years ago. She had slipped into a comatose state just before I got to her. She died three hours later. It is something I will never get over. I miss her terribly every day. You have your children and you are apparently functioning and living, which is what I am sure your grandmother would want you to do. Hold onto the love you have for each other, love never dies. Keep your memories close in your heart and share them with your children, your family and your friends. Your grandmother will always be with you. Grieve in your way and things will get a little easier with each passing day. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

You never stop missing loved ones. In one year time frame, I lost my mother and two uncles with whom I was very close. However, you can't allow the loss to bring you down. I lost my mother to lung cancer in January 2006; I watched her die. It was the most gut-wrenching and awful thing that I could imagine.

Now that it is over, I miss her terribly, but instead of grieving, I think about all the wonderful times we had together and the wonderful things she taught me. It's very therapeutic when you change your focus from "I miss her/him" to "Remember when so-and-so said or did this?" or "How about that time when she tried to convice me to go here, and I escaped..she was so pissed!"

Memories never go away, and I am sure you have many with your grandma. Good luck.

Answer 6

I know what its like to lose a loved one. A couple of years ago my best friend was shot in the head by the guy she was seeing. Mind you, I was 16 and had no idea what to do. I went through a lot of phases before "getting over" her. Overall, it took me about 2 years to come to the realization that there was nothing I could do to get her back and nothing I could have done to change the situation. I am not a religious person by far. iff you want to talk you can email me.

Answer 7

My grandmother has been gone for almost 24 years now. I still wish I could sit and talk to her sometimes. The missing will never go away, but it does become easier to cope with. Just remember, she is an angel watching over you now. It is ok to feel her presence. Remember this also. Someday you will get to reunite with her. She is at peace with the Lord.

Answer 8

You want to see your Grandma one more time and get closure? After missing my Grandma without seeing her before she died I dreamed of her and some other relatives who went on before her and was able to hug her one more time. My Dad passed away in Dec of "05" and I didn't get the closure with him cause he died before I made it to the hospital. So , after many days of thoughts about him I finally dreamed about him and he was a young man,like when i was 6 or 7 yrs old Pray and ask for one more chance to see her and say something to her. It works and it will for you as it did for me

Answer 9

I totally understand what you are saying. Its ok to miss her,But I dont think she is far from you.She is still around you. I lost my son 5 years ago but I still talk to him and I feel that he is watching over me.Sometimes out of the corner of my eye I can almost see him. When I find a penny I know its a penny from heaven.Just keep her memories as fresh as you can and remember that all you have to do is just to talk to her. If you listen I bet you will even hear her sending her love to you.

Answer 10

I know you understand that one day God is to reunite all of us again.

Death is the true light of life. This living on earth is a important testimonial of our love to God. What's behind the glorious curtain is the most beautiful rewards He'll give to us, and most sacrifice, celebration is that God open this curtain for all of us, black, white, Christian...

Trust me, the moments you have thinking about your grand
mother will never end, and you don't want it to as well. God Bless