So I have gotten myself into a situation where I am living with a person who wants me to remain in a relationship with them when I do not have the same level of interest as I once did. The person is a nice guy who has made an effort to be there for me but I just do not feel love for him. He keeps asking me what he did that was wrong or why he deserves to be punished when all he did was be there for me, etc. and he asks for an explanation as to why but when I have said the things I am thinking feeling he continues to press for more when there really isn't more. And when I present answers to him that he cant/wont accept he then tells me that I haven't given him a chance and then goes on to insist I give him an opportunity for him to prove his worth. I have no doubt in my mind that he is a great guy who will take care of someone but I just have no remaining interest in it being me.
So how can I get through to him to let him know whats what? I tried being nice.
2007-02-08 16:50:55 · 13 answers · asked by job_hunt_07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move out. If he doesn't take the hint from that, then I have no idea what to tell you. I am curious though... He sounds like a really nice guy, even marriage material. I wonder why some girls pass on the sweet great guys and move on to the "bad boys". Some day you might regret letting that one get away from you. You will soon see that good guys are hard to come by. Good luck.
2007-02-08 16:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you may have failed to mention several things in your question here.
Did the person move and make personal sacrifices for you and the relationship? What did you do for him in that regeard?(what did you have to give up-).
Did you attempt to make it work, give the relationship the real chance to grow?
Did he not respect your wishes 97% of the time to the just be told he wasn't good enough, because you fell for the 3rd person involved in your relationship?
Did you cheat on him?
Did you lie to him?
Did you purposefully leave him out of situations that would have brought you closer?
Can you just admit that the questions he asks of you are in depth and not shallow answers because he needs to know the Whys
Can you admit you are really just an *** and truly only care about yourself?
2007-02-09 03:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by Just Cub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make arrangements to move out. Sit him down and
tell him, he is a great guy and you appreciate the love and
kindness he's shown you, but, your feelings for him have changed. You value him as a friend but not a lover. And, because you love him as a friend, you don't want to stand in the way of him finding someone who will love him the way he deserves to be loved. Then, tell him you've made arrangements to move out. Pack it up and go. Best of luck to you. This is a tough position to be in.
forward.
2007-02-09 01:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by karonj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you have done the right thing by being truthful and now you have to be a little tougher with him,he has not given you any choice. Some men and women can;t take the truth even when that's what they say they want. Ever hear of fatal attraction? Be true to YOU!!!
2007-02-09 00:58:41 · answer #4 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not nice to hurt someones feelings but if you should have to then tell like it is. Let them know that you are ,more hurt then they are about this break-up. Things has to come to an end for good reasons. they may back fire and say it's cause of someone else. They always do that.
2007-02-09 00:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Ericqua 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him i tried being nice but i just dont have the same feelings for you and i dont want to lie to you and be in a relationship and not feeling any spark its like being with a doll so im sorry but thankyou for giving me a great relationship but it had to end but i would love to be friends you are still amazing just not in the same way.
2007-02-09 00:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by M.C.C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and explain to him that you dont have any feelings for him..and that theres someone in the world that will love him and your just not that person. tell him that he would be wasting his time if he stayed with you because you have no strong love for him and that wouldnt be a very good relationship. hope everything works out :)
2007-02-09 00:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont live with with him anymore..move out..or just sit down with him..tell him ALL the things he did for u..and how much u liked it..BUT at the same time tell him that this wont work out..if that doesnt work..then i guess get a boyfriend..and he'll back off
2007-02-09 00:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by Moe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave...just tell him in a way he'll understand and then MOVE OUT. You can't live there and expect him not to care and think that you still do.
2007-02-09 00:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. The truth will set you free.
2007-02-09 00:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋