It's a long story...so i'll try to make it short. Me and my ex-husband, might i add we married each other 2 times, we're together for about 10 yrs. We have a 5yr daughter. He is in love w/a girl that lives in another state and see's her between 1 and 3 times a month. He still calls me for sex and friends, and i just found out that they have had sex. Which it's hard for me cause i want him back, but he say's he's crazy over her and has to figure it out. Neither one of them will give in and make the move to be w/each other. He told me the other day he was jealous as hell over me and couldn't bare the sight of me even talking to other guy's but he's gone out w/her to clubs too and even watched her dance w/ other guy's and he did not get jealous at all....thats what he says. So any advice on this would be greatful. If you can at least answer the "jealousy" thing it would be helpful but if you have any advice on the rest....TY!
2007-02-08 16:47:31 · 5 answers · asked by ;p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1- If he is in love with someone else now, why is he continuing on a sexual relationship outside of this new love?
2-Give him space so he can figure it out. 10 years is a long time, a lot of memories (good and bad) and a lot of shared dreams and goals. The grass is greener wears out quickly. If he comes back then, get into marriage therapy.
3-Issue of confusion for your 5 year old? Does anyone think how their behaviour affects their children?
4-Your ex's new love sounds like a lovely bar prize. Consider getting an STD test.
I have been there done that (married 10 years, 2 children, reconciling with ex {but no sex}, realized girls online were promising him the world...). I am not sure why women do this to each other (there is no shortage of single men out there). Good luck to you and be strong. A worthy guy will find you.
2007-02-08 17:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have had the same problem and well if i was u i would be hard to get guys want what they cant have trust me so next time he wants a booty call invite him over suduce him and tell him u have something to do and leave him there get out and experience life u only live once so what if he has a girl u need like 10 guys back at him make him want u do little things to get him turned on and then leave him if u guys were together 10 yrs u know what he likes so use it to your advantage make him want u but dont give in to fast when he wants u back make him wait for u and want u.....kinda like what he is doing to u know guys enjoy watching a girl want them and the more u act like it the more he will
2007-02-08 17:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember jealousy = insecurity. He wants you in order to feel that he "still has it (you)"
To me this guy sounds nutty - like OJ Simpson
I would leave him. Wouldnt you want someone who is secure in himself and the ONLY person he wants is YOU?
2007-02-08 16:54:54 · answer #3 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He strikes me as very insecure. Almost like a stalker. Be careful.
2007-02-08 17:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious. He doesn't love that other girl, he loves you.
2007-02-08 17:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by Alan K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋