my problem is a bit complicated.
I have a girlfriend that I love with all of my heart. no doubt.
but I also have a close friend. a friend I used to have feelings for.
a friend I still have feelings for.
the first day I knew that I loved her, I was going to tell her.
this was around november, I believe.
but I found out she was taken that same day.
somebody beat me to the punch.
I thought "no big deal. I'll just wait for her"
I waited and waited and waited and waited and waited and waited and waited.
And one day I became fed up.
I gave up.
in early january.
and I tried to get over her.
the day everything changed..it seemed like another normal day.
I called a random phone number I was given a few days earlier.
I was talking to my current girlfriend.
I saw my friend again, after about a week of not talking to her.
she said she broke up with her boyfriend.
the guy had a bunch of hickies on his neck. he said he got drunk and didn't know what he was doing.
I tried to comfort her.
but I knew that if I did..
I would just fall in love with her again.
And I did.
while I was still with my girlfriend.
I began to think I wanted to leave my girlfriend to be with my close friend.
something told me that my friend loved me.
for whatever reasons.
I tried to make absolutely certain.
the only thing that happened.
was that I feel in love with my girlfriend yet again.
she was unaware of all the things I was feeling.
(keep in mind..I didn't cheat on her in any way. I just had thoughts..)
I thought it was all over between me and my best friend.
well.
that was until I saw her with her ex again.
it drove me nuts.
I saw the two together, and I couldn't control my emotions. I nearly lost it.
and I made a decision.
me and my best friend..we go to the same school together.
the more I see her, the more I think about her.
and I began to think I wanted to leave to my girlfriend's school.
that wouldn't really work out..
but one of my other friends told me something my best friend said about me.
she said I was stuipid for wanting to leave my school just to be with my little girlfriend.
it angered me.
it made me convert all my feelings for my friend into feelings for my girlfriend.
I know you probably think I'm nuts, by this point..
I don't know. I just don't know.
I'm at my wits end.
somebody help me clear this thing up.
2007-02-08 16:45:55 · 5 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it doesnt sound like you love either one of them
please dont take this offensively but...
if you loved your "best friend" you and her would be together
if you loved your girlfriend...
you wouldnt be in love with someone else
love can be alot of things but one thing it cant be is unsure
you sound greedy,man
how do you think your girlfriend would feel if you told her you were in love with some one else.
i know she would be just as pissed as she would have been if you would have told her that you slept with her.
take a break from both of them and assert your feelings
2007-02-08 16:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to deciding between two different women, you have to evaluate the price and benefit of your possible actions.
1. Can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with either of them?
2. What do you like the most/least about your current girlfriend?
3. What do you like the most/least about girl #2?
4. Is it worth breaking your girlfriend's trust if you're not serious about being w/ #2?
So, my best advice is think LONG-TERM. School will end at some point, and if you think your relationship will go beyond school, then pick the one that you really see yourself with.
It's cliché to say, but "Follow your heart."
2007-02-08 16:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by that_guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this only drama because you are makiing it this way, you have
someone that love you and you want to be with some one
that does not feel as you do, the fact that you had to wait
for her to share her feeling for you and still has not done
tthis but you still want to be with her,sound like you dont
really need any one, every one has choice in there life,
you need to look at what really going on in your heart and
then and only then will you make the right decision,
2007-02-08 16:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called CONFUSION...
Women love to confuse men all of the time... This is why we fall in love with them... Believe it or not...
The best advice is to IGNORE both of them...
Seriously...
Don't chase them at all...
let women chase you...
AND WHATEVER YOU DO...
Don't tell the chick you love her...
You are getting WAYYYYY to emotional...
The truth is...
YOU WANT TO BE LOVED BY A WOMEN...
YOU WANT IT REALLY BAD... REALLY REALLY BAD...
I know how you feel...
We want to be TRULY LOVED...
By someone...
I don't think that you are nuts at all...
See...
Women know how to slowly make you get ENTANGLED in their web...
They know how to give you mixed emotions...
one day you feel...
MMMM, she likes or loves me...
The next day they give you a mixed message...
These mixed messages have an effect on men...
we start CHASING THEM...
THAT IS WHEN THEY LOSE INTEREST...
Women love playing games to TEST YOUR STRENGTH AS A MAN...
This is why you'll often notice that women go out with JERKS that seem to not care about them...
They like the guy who doesn't tell her how he feels, or any of his emotions...
THEY LIKE, AND FALL FOR A MAN WHO IS A MYSTERY...
YOU ARE OBVIOUSLY NOT A MYSTERY TO EITHER OF THEM...
START BEING MORE MYSTERIOUS, AND UNAVAILABLE...
AND DOn'T DISCUSS ANYTHING ABOUT THESE WOMEN, TO ANYONE... GUY FRIENDS, GIRLFREINDS, ETC...
Everyone around you will begin to realize that you are a "HOPELESS ROMANTIC"...
And women (say they want this) but they don't...
they want a strong man, who sends mixed messages, and is PLAYFUL, and humourous around them...
YOU ARE GETTING WAYYYYYYYYY TO SERIOUS WITH THESE CHICKS...
DON'T CALL EITHER OF THEM FOR AWHILE...
IGNORE THEM,
AND THEY WILL BEGIN TO WONDER MORE AND MORE ABOUT YOU... (unless you already blew it)
LET WOMEN CHASE YOU...
DON'T CHASE THEM...
AND REMEMBER THIS:
If a chick is hanging with you, and calling you etc... and spending time... with YOU...
SHE LIKES YOU ON SOME LEVEL...
NEVER EVER TELL HER YOUR INTENTIONS...
Such as that you love her, etc...
If a chick likes you...
Everything will happen naturally...
REMEMBER...
DON'T WEAR YOUR HEART ON YOUR SLEEVE...
I would ignore both of them for awhile...
You are probably too sticky STICKY STICKY STICKY...
Ignore women...
If they really like you, they will call you...
And don't "JUMP" at the chance to ask her out if she calls you...
USE THE WORD "HANGOUT"
INSTEAD OF DATE, OR THAT YOU WANT TO GO OUT WITH HER...
JUST GENERAL ADVICE...
YOU ARE NOT CONFUSED...
YOU ARE JUST SEEKING TRUE LOVE...
AREN'T WE ALL??????
So no you are not nuts...
These women just have your emotions all messed up...
LOVE YOURSELF FIRST, AND THE WOMEN WILL COME RUNNING TO YOU DUDE...
BELIEVE ME I KNOW...
2007-02-08 17:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Q&A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To thine own self be true .
2007-02-08 16:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋