I mean we had sex for a long time and just for the last few months he doesnt want to do anything like have sex or take showers together anymore and im just lost..I dont know if im doing anything wrong so pleaseeeee help me and what should i do?
2007-02-08 16:39:27 · 18 answers · asked by whiskeygirl410 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you did anything wrong. Your boyfriend is probably in a comfort zone with you, specially if he knows that he can have you at anytime. So your sexual relationship is at a point were it is Routine. I suggest you break out of it by either playing his own game and wait til he gets horny and don't give him any sex .In the morning ask him how he felt and explain to him that you feel the same way when he ignores you. Communication is key, You have to keep reminding him that not only he has needs you do too.
2007-02-08 16:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jose P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best to find out now while he's your boyfriend, before he becomes your husband. Talk to him about your desires and needs. Men need to know that woman desire intimacy and closeness. If the tables were turned you'd be afraid he'd stray away....he should have the same concern and work harder
to satisfy you. Maybe you could try spicing up his interests and turning him on... greeting him at the door in celophane or
playing a french maid... Try something so you'll know what you're dealing with. Life is way too short not enjoy each other!
2007-02-09 00:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lulu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he suddenly doesn't want sex with you anymore (and it is not due to anything you have changed), it is possible either he is getting sex from someone else, he has a medical condition, or something else (like work) is disctacting him from sex. If this lack of interest in sex with you has evolved over time, maybe it is due to his growing accustomed to you. First thing you should do is talk to him about it. Find out why he is not interested in sex with you. If he does not himself know why, then the two of you need to discuss this with a marriage counselor. If, on the other hand, he is cheating, he is not worth keeping.
2007-02-09 00:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by arizona wolfman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honeymoon's over. You are not an exotic discovery anymore.
This is NOT your fault, it's human nature. I know, you're not married, but, hey, this is a sign.
There are many ways to spice up the ol' love life. You can go to a sex store (Castle's Superstore, Lover's Package, etc.) and see if you can find some toys/lotions/clothing to help spark it up. Also, talk to you partner. The biggest sex organ on his body is not the obvious, but it is the same as yours.
It's your brain. Talk out your fantasies with each other. Share them. If he fantasies about doing it outdoors (and you can get away with it), go visit a park! You might be VERY surprised.
2007-02-09 00:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by nkroadcaptain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time for you to try something daring to spark his interest. Doing the same old things all the time will get boring sooner or later. Spice it up a little with toys or what not. It want hurt to try.
2007-02-09 00:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
these are the most likely reasons your sex life has changed;
1. he's tired of the same routine.
2. he's ready to move on.
3..he's interested in someone else.
i didnt mention that he could be stressed out about something because you didnt mention anything to make me think that could be the culprit. relationships tend to fade away within a years time so i t might be time to face the facts and move on. dont blame yourself over it. its life!!!!!!!
2007-02-09 01:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any guy who loses interest in haveing sex or takeing showers together is one of two things....gay or haveing sex with someone else...if i were you i would be a little more suspicious and less available !
2007-02-09 00:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by flonehotmamacal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sit down and talk with him, see where he stands and what he thinks about the situation. another thing you can do is set up what I like to call date night. Pick a day during the week that both of you have free and spend that day or night togeather. good luck;)
2007-02-09 00:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by rain angel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like what my GF was doing to me after a while. It's one of two things. He feels like he doesnt have to try anymore because your with him and he "knows" that you won't go anywhere or two he's cheating on you. You should probably set him down and find out what's going on...
2007-02-09 00:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by qwertyness85 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex is not for boyfriends. Sex is for husbands only.
2007-02-09 00:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by Joe C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋