I just got out of a really long relationship that was the best relationship of my life to say the least. It lasted from february of last year to november of last year. I was no doubt about it madly in love with this guy.
Well we parted ways and haven't talked much since. My cousin trys to hook me up with this guy i have nothing in common with except maybe music. But he's like super sweet. And we talk for a while. My ex finds out and i find out that the new guy i've been talking to is a really big.. player. He;s done it with alot of girls like me tha are kindof innocent. Well i though nothing of it. Well then i hear it from everyone else in school. I'm going to prom witht his guy. well.. i don't want to. I want to call it off. But he's nice you know? idk what to do.. or where to turn.. PLease give me an idea of how to end it with this new guy. I just need to be single for a while.
2007-02-08 16:20:07 · 12 answers · asked by Jade B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
confront him about the rumors but be firm. If your heart wants rest then let it rest. Why torture an already broken heart. If there are way too many people confirming your worst fears then don't waste your time. Chances are they are all telling you the truth.
I've been there before. Wanting to just be single that is. It's healthy and nurturing for your mind and heart. Go with your gut.
Players only love you when they're playing. -Fleetwood Mac
Good luck.
2007-02-08 16:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by EddieRasco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is a really nice guy then he will understand that you need some "you time", hopefully! Just tell him, it's been a while since I've been alone and I need to find myself again to truly feel happy in a relationship. Hopefully, he'll understand after the initial shock and accept it and move on. Which if he is a "player" as he's noted being at school then he'll have no problem what so ever. Remember, this is all about you and how you feel. Don't hold back on fear of hurting him, be true to yourself! It's all about you have fun with what year or years you have remaining in school and live life to the fullest. You can't ever go back! Good luck!
2007-02-09 00:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by lil' miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if he is telling everyone you agreed to go to the prom with him when you didn't that doesn't sound to nice to me. Some times the wrong type of people seem really sweet untill you cross them in the wrong way. I suggest you tell this person how you feel and that you do need to be single and stick to it. It is not wrong of you to not want to date, even if the person is nice. You have to do what is right for you, and if dating right now isn't it then tell him that be nice about it, but stick to it. If he is a player I'm sure he will just move on, and if he isn't then even if does hurt him you still have to take care of you, if you don't you can't be good for anyone else.
2007-02-09 00:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by tabby_tigger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most players are really nice. Trust me, I've experienced the best of them, unfortunately. You need to break it off right away. I would just tell him that you feel like you need to be single for a while, and that you're not ready to be involved with a guy even if it's just dating. Leave it at that. Even if he begs, or cries, don't give in. If you give in, he will know he can control you. Thank you for being smart enough to respect yourself! I wish I would have.
2007-02-09 00:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by mandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, still in high school. Girl you are still young. Did you already have sex with this person? I can tell you sex is not a relationship. I hope girls at your age is not having sex with every guy they go out with. But you need to confront him and tell him you just want to be friends and get to know him without the sex and if he doesn't go for it, then he is not the one you want to be with. There will be a guy for you, that will respect you for you and not about the sex. Don't rush enjoy life.
2007-02-09 00:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by theresa s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth you want to call it off and that you are not really ready for a commitment right now. You thought you were over the other guy but you just need some more time.
2007-02-09 00:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by lynx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try being honest with him, tell him you need some time alone, and if he really is a nice guy he'll understand, and if he really is a player then he'll find someone else in time for prom.
2007-02-09 00:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by kmv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with him, start with, "I have heard some rumors, and I need to hear your take..." don't accuse him or anything, see if he admits it or tries to play it off or something, if you think he didn't do it (in conversation) then you could go with him, if you want. if you don't want to, just say, "I am sorry, but I do not wish to go to the prom with you anymore." he asks why, you respond, "It's a personal issue. I'm sorry."
If the guy is like what you say, he won't care.
2007-02-09 00:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by Trey123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay in control and call it off as soon as you can. Tell him exactly what you said in your explanation - that you need to be single for a while.
2007-02-09 00:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by mcpouches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you just want to stay single but go to the prom as friends. Only if you want him to go.
There is nothing to be nieve about just be yourself and honest.
2007-02-09 00:25:48 · answer #10 · answered by Nat555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋