I am one to believe that when I want to sleep with someone I'll figure that out but it will probably be waaaay down the road. So, at what point in a relationship does a guy think that he is entitled sex? Is there a magic number of dates? Or am I totally misunderstanding everything I see around me as far as dating is concerned? How long is a guy willing to wait before he gives up? Are there guys out there who are totally cool with not having sex a part of a dating relationship if the girl doesn't want it? Please don't tell me anyone is gay in the relationship if they don't want sex. That's not always true.
2007-02-08 16:17:17 · 18 answers · asked by gracefulelephant 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From the beginning, the only question is when will he go for it. If he really loves you, he'll only go for it after you've made it perfectly clear that your ready
2007-02-08 16:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it feels right to YOU. I would wait at least until you know you and he are exclusively dating only each other. Also, it's a good idea to get HIV tested. In this day and age - you never know - and even still, use a condom to protect yourself. Not only would you be having sex with him, but you'd be having "sex" with every person he's ever been with in the past.
Most men and women do put "out" after a couple of dates, which I think it wrong and was not how I was raised. I am 36 and have very old fashioned values. Listen to you heart - your heart will never lie.
2007-02-08 16:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by peace_love_granola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the guy's age, past history, chemistry, etc...there's always that "3-date" rule but that's a load of crap, sometimes that's too early and sometimes the chemistry's there before that. People say that if a girl puts out too soon, the guy will lose interest and that one goes both ways, sometimes the guy does lose interest in the chase and other times he likes what he got and comes back for more. Personally, I think it's a balancing act: hold out long enough that he feels like he's actively pursuing you but not so long that he gives up completely because he feels like he's hopeless, read his signals and find that happy spot :)
2007-02-08 16:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by justpeachee22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm at wht point does a guy expect sex in the relationship... nt tht hard to answer....
the point come when guys see the girl for the first time ... :D
luk... guys are always ready and wht they wait for is girls willingness for sex. those who can understand it well can have it on very first date and those who can't can wait for 2-3 years for the magical moment to come.
there is nothing like magic numbers of dates...
about how long a guy can wait before finally givin up ....
nw tht depends on the guy to guy and relationship to relationship.
in the part of the world i live... the most h o r n y guy can wait for ages if he is seriously in love.
so there is nothing in particular bout how long can guys wait.
2007-02-08 16:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by urlastdesire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different yes, and if your going out with a guy that think his entitled to sex in any giving time you need to stop see in at once. If you don't feel you ready to have sex with the guy then don't, it's up to you and if he doesn’t understand fine your not married he can leave, but don't wear short clothing to give him the wrong ideal your looking for it, and you don't sound like someone that would do that so good for you. Yes there are guys out there who are fine with not having sex as a part of dating and they are call good friends. Just someone you hang around with go to movies and dinner's, but it might be in the back of their minds but they’re ok with knot having sex for the friendship, good luck finding them but they are out there. :-)
Good luck and happy hunting.
2007-02-08 16:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by choiceav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend used to have sex with all his ex and he enjoys having it. However, I am the 'sex-after-marriage' kind. My boyfriend understands and respects my stand on the matter and so far, it has not been a problem with him. I can't tell you for sure if he will continue to be cool with it or if he will make demands in the future, but for now, sex is not in the agenda. In case you're wondering if he is doing it with someone else while dating me, all I can say is that I trust him enough to confidently say that he is not.
2007-02-08 17:24:25 · answer #6 · answered by ms_shorea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any healthy male will be interested in sex whenever he can get it, but when to expect it is another matter altogether. A considerate beau will leave it to the girl to decide, although he may do or say something to show an interest in a sexual relation.
2007-02-08 16:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no set date. and no one can really tell you but i think if you get to know the guy before you date him you can ask him what his expectations are and tell him what yours are. if you want to have sex with him at some point tell him if not or your not ready tell him that too. good guys stay regardless because if they think that you are too special to let go they will do whateva you are comfortable with.
2007-02-08 16:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by kaybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on your age, of course, but there are a lot of guys that expect it by the 2nd date. But I would tell you wait a month at least, because if that was all a guy wants, he won't wait that long.
2007-02-08 16:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very few guys would want you as a gf if you weren't going to have sex with them. To a guy that's part of the point of having a gf. I could see good friends.
2007-02-08 16:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by Dereck 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The truth is like women, men are all different, But as a rule men do move quicker than women. If he truly likes you he'll be cool about it. What ever you do don't tease him though you will definitely frustrate him.
2007-02-08 16:22:32 · answer #11 · answered by firshizel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋